Post # 1
I haven’t seen this done at any of the weddings I have been to, but I am throwing around the idea of joining our guests during the cocktail hour.
My parents did this and actually greeted their guests when they arrived at the reception site. I like the idea of thanking them for coming right away, and to be honest, getting all of the meet/greet out of the way. After the cocktail hour I figure we will still gather outside of the main hall for a formal entry into the first dance.
Our wedding liturgy is earlier in the day so we should have enough time to take pictures and be at the reception for the cocktails. And, to be honest, I figure if I am paying for open bar/hors de oeuvres then I should be there to enjoy them!
Any thoughts? (Please be honest if this is tacky!)
Post # 3
Go for it! My husband and I made it to about 30 minutes of our cocktail hour, and then lined up with our parents at the entrance to the dining hall for the receiving line. It was great to relax with guests (and have some of the hor devours we’d paid for!) before heading in for dinner. My sister did the same thing at her wedding, and I don’t think it’s tacky at all.
Post # 4
that’s not tacky at all! you spend so much time and energy into planing your wedding, you should be able to enjoy it any which way you want! we plan to do a photo receiving line at our cocktail hour. we are doing a first look, so will have taken pics prior to the ceremony.
Post # 5
This is what we’re doing! I can’t see why anyone would think this is tacky. If anything, I think people will appreciate the extra time with you. We’re doing the majority of our pictures before the ceremony and asked the photographer to come earlier than usual specifically so we could spend cocktail hour with our guests. She said a lot of brides are doing that these days.
We also wanted to get the meets and greets out of the way so that we could not worry about seeing everyone at the reception and actually enjoy it.
I say go for it!
Post # 6
Thank you bees! It is always good to hear some reassurance
Post # 7
We actually arranged with our wedding coordinator at the reception hall to have a seperate cocktail earlier for the bridal party and we all ate a quick sampling then. When the guests arrived we were ready to mingle and chat (and didn’t have to stuff our faces in between conversations) and the bridal party members were content and excited to get to explore the cocktail hour fun with their guest (who probably was waiting to get some time with them for awhile!) It was one of the best things we did!
Post # 8
@Mrs Sweet Pea, what a cool idea, to have a separate cocktail hour for the wedding party! I would love that.
We are currently debating about whether we should do a first look so we can join in the cocktail hour. I want to but there is something so magical about seeing each other at the ceremony… I don’t know…
Post # 9
Shelliduke…I think you will get a few takes on when to see eachother the first time. Great pictures come out of the first reveal, but there is always a first reveal..so just think of where you want the setting to be for that (before or at the ceremony) and who you want to be there!
If you need any more info. on the private cocktail hour, just let me know 🙂
Post # 10
I *wish* we could’ve joined our cocktail hour! It was our only time to take a couple private photos of us post-ceremony, so we sent the bridesmaids and groomsmen on their way and then rejoined the party as soon as we could. If you can do it, I say go for it. Enjoy as much of your reception and your guests’ company as possible!
Post # 11
I think it sounds like a great idea!
Post # 12
We’re going to ours, and having a separate cocktail reception BEFORE for our wedding party. It’s the beauty of having a Catholic Mass wedding that starts at 2pm (the latest our church allows) and having an evening reception. There is so much time to do it all
Post # 13
we’re doing preceremony pix and having group shots AT the cocktail hour – i’m hoping they’ll be over quick so we can mingle and have some of the hors d’oeuvres. i think more people are doing that these days.
Post # 14
I think it’s great! How much fun are cocktail hours, and then to have the Bride and Groom mingling about–even better! Everyone is there because they love you and want to be with you on this joyous occassion–who wouldn’t want to see the guests of honor?
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Definitely not tacky! We’re doing our formals in the morning before the ceremony, and filling the afternoon gap with more pictures, so we plan on joining our guests for cocktail hour — so excited to try some of our caterer’s amazing creations!
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2009 - Battery Gardens
I was at our cocktail hour and I loved it. We were able to speak to many of our guests before the sit down portion. We did pictures beforehand. Definitely do it if you’d like to.