(Closed) Wedding Party (Bridesmaides/Groomsmen)

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Fiance has one sister and several brothers; none are close, so they won’t be in the wedding. We aren’t even sure they will be at the wedding.

I think that you should include only who you want in your bridal party. It is your wedding; not your moms. Sorry to your mom, but it is true.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My FH’s family is more like a web instead of a tree, so there’s lots of brothers and sisters here and there. I’m really close with 2 of his sisters and he’s close with my brother, so we’re going to have one sister as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and the other is a Flower Girl. She’s 6! And my brother will be a Groomsmen.

I agree with noritake- You should include only who you want to include. Try not to let people pressure you into something you don’t want. It’s you and your FH’s day!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Fiance isn’t terribly close to his sister and is about 10 years older and they aren’t terribly close so she won’t be a bridesmaid.  And he already had one groomsmen more than I have bridesmaids so my brother won’t be a groomsmen.  We’re having them do readings. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my fiance has both a twin sister and a younger sister and both are in the wedding party.  so are all of their kids (a total of five kids between the two sisters!)

our families live on different coasts (his in CA, mine in NC) so we figured what they hey, it’s the only time they’ll all be together probably EVER, might as well make it a big family affair! 

all that being said, i still think you should do what feels best for YOU and YOUR day!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my Fiance is an only child… but my younger brother will be a groomsmen for Fiance 🙂

my bro and i are super close… and Fiance and my bro get along great as they are one in the same… they’re not best friends, but that’s because lil bro has been in nyc most of our dating/engagement time… but they love each other and the lil bonding time they  have spent together

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Both FI’s sister and brother will be in the wedding. His brother is one of his Best Men and his sister is one of my BMs. All of my siblings are in the wedding also.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you are not close to her and rarely speak, I wouldn’t include her.  You really shouldn’t choose your party based on who other people think you should choose.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree that it’s your wedding and you should have whoever you want. However, is it important to your Fiance and/or his family? I am not really close to FI’s sister (she is 10 years younger than us) and I don’t see her that often. But, it would mean a lot to them and her to have her in the wedding. So, I wanted to include her because I doubt she will be a part of something like this very often. Unlike me who has been a BM in 5 weddings and i still have my sister’s wedding and 3 best friends to go AHHHHH!!!! LOL

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

FI’s brother is his best man even though he’s closer to a lot of his friends. His sister and I are friends even though I’m 10yrs older than her, we’re not super close, but she’s still in our Bridal Party.

My brothers are all in their mid-late 40’s (I was a “whoops”) – they aren’t in our Bridal Party but will have a part in the wedding. My 3 nieces are in our Bridal Party – they’re all in their 20’s and I’m closer to them.

Edit: I’d ask your Fiance how he feels. Most of the time, I think it’s nice to include siblings somehow if you can.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should.  Fiance is having my brother as a groomsman and if he had sisters they would be bridesmaids.  I think its important to incorporate both sides of the family into the wedding.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My fiances sister in law is a little older….her kids are in the wedding but her and her husband aren’t. They are 10 years older then us, so there’s really no hard feelings. We’re only having a couple people in the wedding party and they are all unmarried.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yes 🙂  His sister is my bridesmaid and after we got engaged, I think the wedding has brought us closer.  I can’t imagine planning this wedding without her…she gives great honest opinions and when dealing with my Future In-Laws, she’s another great source to back us up!  So, having his sister be one of your bm might end of being a bonding process itself like it has been for me.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No, my sister and his sister are not in the wedding party but they’re very involved in the wedding in other ways. Future Sister-In-Law designed our invites with us and my sister will be taking photos during the reception.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it depends on you and the family dynamics. If having your future SIL in the wedding is important to your fiances family and you don’t mind I would say go for it! It would be an awesome way to start to build a relationship with her and it seems like it will make both sides of the family happy. Now if you absolutely don’t want her in your wedding then don’t do it because you don’t want to be bitter on your wedding day!

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