Post # 1
I had ordered our wedding programs earlier this month and we just had a groomsman back out. I’m not upset with him for backing out or anything, he had a good reason. I am just wondering how to deal with the programs as the wedding party is listed. I can’t really order new ones. Anyone have any ideas on how to let people know about the change?
Post # 3
@lea_oreilly: I’m not sure you have to announce the change. If I was a guest and someone stood up and said “Bill is no longer a groomsman, so please ignore his name on the program,” it would be super-awkward. Assuming there was no horrible falling out, and y’all wanted to honor him as a groomsman, it’s nice to list his name.
Our “groomslady” had to back out. She’s a military spouse living overseas and her transportation situation wasn’t going to get her home in time for our wedding. She’s a VERY dear friend who supported our relationship from the very beginning, and I love her so much. No hard feelings.
Our numbers are uneven now, but I don’t care. She’d be there if she could, but sometimes things just don’t work out. We haven’t printed our programs yet, but if we’d already printed them, I’d still be glad to have her name on there.
If anyone is nosy of gossipy enough to ask, you can just say he couldn’t be there.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
Honestly, I don’t think people really look at that closely at the programs. If they know who he is, then they probably know the situation already and won’t think twice. To those who don’t, he’s just a name and they figure you have a reason for listing him even if he’s not there. I wouldn’t stress out too much about them 🙂
Post # 5
@lea_oreilly: People will notice when they count 4 groomsmen and see 5 listed. I wouldn’t worry about it, but I would let him know that he’s already been put on the program so that it’s not a surprise. A lot of people don’t seem to read the programs anyway, unfortunately!