(Closed) Wedding Party Conundrum

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If I were Jenny, I would tell Susie, “I’m very sorry, but you don’t get to decide who my bridesmaids are.  I am asking both of you, and I guess it’s up to you to accept or decline knowing that Katie will be a bridesmaid.”  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@Miss Apricot: Perfect response. No one but the bride gets to choose BMs. If Susie really isn’t comfortable standing next to Katie, then she can decline.

Post # 7
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662 posts
Busy bee

@Ms.Ninja:  I feel like maybe Susie isn’t being honest with herself here.  Not only was the guy trying to break up with her but he also slept with her best friend.  where is the blame on this guy and why is she still with him?  Perhaps she doesn’t want Katie to be there because it will remind her that her man is also to blame.  Someone should have a conversation with Susie and remind her that it takes two to tango.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@Ms.Ninja: Yeah, I was surprised when I read that Katie is still with this guy. It seems pretty ridiculous that she can’t put aside her two-year-old anger towards Susie long enough to simply stand next to her at a wedding when she’s forgiven her boyfriend, who is the only one responsible for being faithful to her in their relationship.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Your right in that no one chooses the bridesmaids but the bride. Any chance you could talk to Suzie for her. If not I would speak to Jenny to let her know she can opt out of having Suzie if she wants. She sounds like she could be high drama anyway!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with Miss Apricot. It needs to be the bride’s decision, and Susie can always decline.

Side note, how in the hell could she still be with this guy?!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would totally speak up. Her boyfriend did the same damn thing as Katie, it takes two to tango and he was the one in a relationship with her. So she forgave him, but wants to insist on holding a grudge with Katie to the point that she is willing to make one of her friend’s wedding planning miserable over it?? No way. I would have a face to face convo with her if at all possible and tell her that her behavior is totally unacceptable, and someone needs to stick up for the bride here.

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