- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Alright, my poor friend has become the center of a real life episode of Gossip Girl and I need the hive’s help.
So I am going to change names, but here essentially is what has been going down (excuse me if this is a tad long)
Alright, 2 years ago in college I was friends with a group of three other girls. Let’s call them Katie, Susie, Jenny, and Ms. Ninja (me). So Susie was dating this boy, and she was quite upset about the fact that he didnt buy her a birthday present. So she asked Katie to speak to him and get the downlow on what was going on. I dont know why she couldnt put her big girl panties on and express her frustration to him herself but thats besides the point. Anywho, Katie spoke to this boyfriend and found out that he was planning on breaking up with Susie. He decided to not buy her a gift for some reason and asked Katie for advice on what to do. Over the course of a few weeks they spoke occassionally and Katie told him just to be honest and speak his mind. He kept putting it off and spoke to Katie more frequently and they became closer. (You can see where this is going…) So the night before this guy was going to break up with Susie, Katie and him had sex. Immediately afterward Katie felt terrible, knew she did a bad thing and told the guy he had to be honest with Susie and tell her what was up. Cut too, this guy NEVER told Susie and NEVER broke up with her. Katie repeatedly told this guy that she had to tell Susie and he kept putting it off. So two weeks later Katie just called Susie and told her. Katie said she was terribly sorry, knew she made a horrible mistake, and told Susie that she knew they could never be the same as friends but she wanted to be honest.
Susie was rightfully upset and Katie and her essentially stopped being friends. This put our mutual friend Jenny in a very awkward position. Both girls essentially forced her to take sides (I was quite honest with everyone and said that I wasnt going to get into the middle of anything because Im boss like that). Jenny was unfortunatley the go between for the two girls and had a real tough time during the whole situation.
Fast forward to present day. Jenny just got engaged a few weeks back and we are all so excited and happy for her! Susie, believe it or not, is still with this guy! He lives in another state and Susie has attempted multiple times to try and move in with this guy and he has REFUSED. In my personal opinion, I think he has something going on, on the side there. Katie is still single and has respected Susie’s wishes and stayed out of her life. She still feels sorry for what she did but she has tried to put it in the past. So, Jenny got engaged and told Susie the news, to which Susie told her. “Under no circumstances is Katie allowed to be one of your bridesmaids”
Here’s where I come in. I have been able to hold my tongue for a long time now because I dont enjoy drama. However, I feel that it is wholly innappropriate for Susie to be forcing Jenny back into the middle of this drama two years after the fact. It is also NOT Susie’s day its Jenny’s. Poor Jenny is not confronational and I feel like she is just going to let Susie walk all over her. It has been two years since all this hot mess went down and I feel like we all need to put it past us. If Jenny wants all of us to be bridesmaids I feel like everyone should just suck it up, be cordial, and slap a smile on our faces for the wedding. They dont need to speak, they just need to respect each other. I am the type of person that would wear a paper bag on her head for a wedding if thats what my friends wanted. Because I love them and I would do anything for them. I dont want to overstep my boundaries and stress Jenny out further, but I also dont want her to look back on her wedding pictures years down the line and have one of her best friends missing, just for some dumb old drama.
What to do?