Wedding party dilemma

posted 9 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
3532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I am assuming that everyone involved here is an emotionally mature adult?

If that is the case, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Though I do think you are better off going with either just the one girl from that group of friends or all three. If you choose 2 of the 3 then it comes off a bit more exclusionary.

Post # 3
2800 posts
Sugar bee

I think you’re overthinking it. Just ask the friends that you want to spend your wedding day with.

You don’t have to have the same number of people in your wedding parties either, so you could easily have your 3 friends from hometown and 3 friends from new town. OR you could just have the three from your hometown if you want to keep things simple (bigger wedding parties do come with their own complications). 

I doubt the guys from your new town will think twice if he doesn’t ask them to be in his wedding party. Especially if his is already big. 

Post # 4
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

First off, you don’t need the same number as him just to be even for photos. You choose the women who mean something to you in your lie to stand up with you, no more no less. If you do really like these women from your new town, invite them. If you are not as close, do NOT include them JUST to have even numbers. I would hate to be a bridesmaid just to make photos look even.

Also, just because a spouse is in the wedding party does not mean the other spouse / SO needs to be on the other side. To be honest if someones feelings get hurt in the process, that is on them – you do not need to accommodate anyone’s husbands or include people you aren’t as close to. 

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