(Closed) Wedding Party Drama…

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Your fiance’ must stand up for you. NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT PISSES Future Mother-In-Law off. Even if he doesn’t agree 100% with your decision, you guys have to come off as a team to the fam. My FH and I did that with our families, even when he doesn’t agree with me, or I with him, he supports my decisions and I support his. If you come off as on different sides of the fence, then his family will eat at that and tear it up. And you guys will be starting your families out on a bad foot.

Post # 4
Member
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m going to buy a case of tasers for all the drama around here.  Your Future Mother-In-Law should have called your FH.  I think that was appropriate.  The response should be "I’m sorry you feel that way.  Let’s go get an ice cream cone." or something non-wedding related. 

Give them 2 warnings then tase away.  Don’t feed the animals.  Don’t engage and give them room to argue with you.  There’s nothing to argue over.  You and your FH have decided.

Post # 5
Member
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

"Give them 2 warnings then tase away.  Don’t feed the animals."

hilarious! i’m going to print that out and tape it to the wall. 

Post # 6
Member
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

learned it the hard way.  I figured out how to deal with it from SuperNanny.  When they put the kids to sleep they talk to them the first few times.  Then nothing, just put them back into the bed.  No arguing just in the bed.  The kids figure it out.  It works on adults too.  I’m going to start using the dog whisperer hints next. psst. I’m the pack leader.  Lets go for a walk.

Post # 7
Member
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Yes MissRojoOso! You’re not being aggressive, you’re just being dominant!  Seriously, babagrlshell is right.  She called your FH, she is his mom, he needs to back you up.  You can both tell her that the wedding party is already established, but you are sooooo happy that spoiled little sister wants to help, and here are a few things she can choose from (guest book, present table, bathroom attendant, etc).  Or, of course, you would be just as happy to have her there as a guest.  That’s it, end of discussion.  It sounds like Future Mother-In-Law is used to being able to manipulate people – the sooner you make it clear that you don’t play that way, the better things will be all around.

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