Post # 1
So I’m having a destination wedding and when I get there I was thinking of getting my nails done a couple of days before the wedding. Originally I was thinking of just going with my MOHs (sister and friend) and my mom. Am I obligated to invite Future Mother-In-Law and two bridesmaids (FH’s sisters)?
I orginally thought it would just be a casual time with my closest people. I was kind of planning on just winging it when the four of us have time one day since people will be wanting to do their own things and explore. My Future Mother-In-Law tends to make my life stressful and she’s very dramatic and FH’s sisters and I aren’t super close. I’m wondering if this is okay, or if I need to invite them too?
Post # 2
Do what you want to do, but if it were me, I’d include everybody or get them done sooner before the mil or sil arrive.
I would hate to do anything that would cause last min drama or hurt feelings. You can get your nails done with your mohs and mom any time.
Post # 3
Thanks for the advice!
I just have tried to be cordial in the past and she never reciprocates. My thought was that I just wanted to enjoy and get excited about something without her drama and negativity around. For the last year she has been nothing but negative about FH and my wedding/engagement. I just want to actually be happy and exicted about our wedding.
Post # 4
I’d probably invite them but make it very casual. Like “fyi gonna get my nails done at x time, you are welcome to join if you like!”
I just don’t think it’s worth causing drama over something so silly so close to your wedding when you’re gonna be super anxious anyway.
Post # 5
Since you are asking as an etiquette question, etiquette is negative on most destination weddings. Could that be the reason why Future Mother-In-Law has not been very enthusiastic about your plans? If so, I’d try to be extra sensitive and inclusive.
But to answer your question, you’re not obligated to include her while you are getting ready, either immediately before the wedding or ahead of time.
Post # 6
I think if they’re bridesmaids, you need to invite them. You aren’t obligted to, but it’s kind of crappy to not include you FMIL/FSIL in something so basic.
Post # 7
springtimewedding1987 : You sure love drama and hate his mama. “Can I give my parents a nice gift and get her a cheap one?” “Can I forbid my husband from walking her to her seat so he can walk my mom instead?” “She’s upset that our dw means her sick mother will have to miss her first grandchild’s wedding, isn’t that selfish of her?”
You say you want something fun without her negativity, but you are guaranteeing her negativity by excluding her. You know she will find out, and you know she’ll be hurt. Go ahead and do it anyway and then come here and complain about how mean she was.