Wedding Party Etiquette Question

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Do what you want to do, but if it were me, I’d include everybody or get them done sooner before the mil or sil arrive. 

I would hate to do anything that would cause last min drama or hurt feelings. You can get your nails done with your mohs and mom any time. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’d probably invite them but make it very casual. Like “fyi gonna get my nails done at x time, you are welcome to join if you like!”

I just don’t think it’s worth causing drama over something so silly so close to your wedding when you’re gonna be super anxious anyway.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper

Since you are asking as an etiquette question, etiquette is negative on most destination weddings. Could that be the reason why Future Mother-In-Law has not been very enthusiastic about your plans? If so, I’d try to be extra sensitive and inclusive.

But to answer your question, you’re not obligated to include her while you are getting ready, either immediately before the wedding or ahead of time. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think if they’re bridesmaids, you need to invite them.  You aren’t obligted to, but it’s kind of crappy to not include you FMIL/FSIL in something so basic. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

springtimewedding1987 :  You sure love drama and hate his mama. “Can I give my parents a nice gift and get her a cheap one?” “Can I forbid my husband from walking her to her seat so he can walk my mom instead?” “She’s upset that our dw means her sick mother will have to miss her first grandchild’s wedding, isn’t that selfish of her?” 

You say you want something fun without her negativity, but you are guaranteeing her negativity by excluding her. You know she will find out, and you know she’ll be hurt. Go ahead and do it anyway and then come here and complain about how mean she was.

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