(Closed) Wedding Party (& everyone else) Gifts

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Regarding the gifts for your BMs, if they’re to wear it on YOUR day, it’s not really a gift, it’s part of the outfit. (regardless of what else you’re paying for for them)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybe a pair of nice shoes for your dad. Include a note about “walking” you down the isle.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

For your parents – gift certificate to their favorite restaurant?

For the flower girl, ask her mother for her favorite movies, cartoon shows, etc. Maybe a backpack filled with things from that movie?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@caits615:  I disagree (well, clearly) but ok!  

Pro Tip: If you don’t want people to comment on it, don’t put it on the internet 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I gave the FG’s a necklace, a claddagh, and sat with them and explained the meaning.  I also told them (they are all my nieces) that if they still have the necklace and took proper care of it, when they are 13 they get a claddagh ring.   I wish someone had talked to me about taking care of jewelry when I was younger I’m so hard on it.

For my dad, we gave him the book of wedding pics.  He didn’t get it at the rehearsal dinner, he got a card and an IOU, same with my Mother-In-Law.  We got the gm’s pocket watches and got our officiant the same thing.  They guys all brew their own beer, so getting a bottle of liquor wouldn’t really mean too much.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@caits615:   A gift certificate to a toy store (something like build a bear) could be cute for your flower girl.  For our parents, we did a cute scrapbook for each of our moms (fathers are deceased) that had our childhood photos and notes saying thank you for raising us; we put these into coach handbags as our gifts to them.  As for your bridesmaids, I don’t really consider wedding day attire a gift, but I think you’ve done a lot for them since they aren’t really out any money for your wedding; so maybe just some gift cards?  My girls are only out travel expenses for my wedding, so I got them coach wristlets, gift cards (sephora and VS), emergency kits, I custom made them jewelry and a case, plus I’m taking care of their accommodations (I only have 2 girls though).  For your grandfather, maybe a nice money clip or cufflinks if he’s into that.  Otherwise, food/restaurant gifts are always nice.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@caits615:  I understand but IMO just because they made the etiquette mistake doesn’t mean that you need to repeat it!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mchitt329:  hmm, my cousin gave us a gift basket that was full of things for the wedding day. A clutch with “emergency” items (that I have used since the wedding), flip flops to change into after the ceremony, earrings and bracelets to wear in the wedding (which she hand made), etc and I never once thought “oh, this is all for the wedding, it’s not a real gift”. It’s kind of snooty to be picky-choosy about what a bride decides to get you as a gift.

OP, honestly just paying for their dresses, hair, and makeup is a gift to most people. I think your choice of giving jewelry as a gift (even if they are meant to be worn the day of) is perfectly acceptable.

As for the flower girl, I second a PP with finding out what she likes and getting her a gift backet of the all the stuff.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@caits615:  I have to agree with you on the Bridesmaid or Best Man jewelry.  I’m getting them all custom made jewelry designed by me (that isn’t cheap!) for their gift.  They’re obviously welcome to wear it but they don’t have to.  I never understood the opinion on WB that jewelry didn’t count as a gift – it’s always been the gift I recieved when I was a bridesmaid!  Not to mention you paid for all their dresses already.  My Fiance isn’t getting one of his groomsmen a large gift like the rest because he paid all his flights, hotel, rental car, tux, etc.  I’d hardly call giving nice jewelry an etiquette mistake!  I’d much prefer a nice necklace even if it’s to wear in the wedding than some monogramed “thing” which seems so typical these days. 

For our flower girl who is 6, I got her a tote bag filled with stuff- snacks, coloring books, a bride Barbie! Then, I got her a more sentimental gift – one of the embroidered handkerchiefs off etsy.   Ohh, I just saw your Flower Girl loves to read – they have some cute flower girl stories.  I bought one for my Flower Girl and Ring Bearer when I asked them (well, their parents) to be part of the wedding!  They’re pretty cheap on amazon.  

What about a nice engraved frame for his grandfather?  Then, you guys can give him a wedding picture of the 3 of you after you get them back?

We got our parents personalized custom frames on etsy. They’re beautiful. If you want the seller, let me know!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In every wedding I’ve ever been in, my gift has always been the jewlery I was to wear to the wedding. How is that a mistake? It’s nice expensive jewlery? 

Im giving my ladies all their jewlery ($100 each per set) plus I’m giving them a g/c for a mani/pedi, and paying for their makeup. Oh and a clutch. It’s all for the actual wedding, but how are those not gifts? 

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