Post # 1
My fiance and I have been engaged for a year and are finally ready to jump into wedding planning, but have found our first obstacle in the wedding party. We have a lot of friends, but both of our real "best friends" are much older, where we feel uncomfortable asking them to participate in the wedding. He has two sisters that don’t approve of/like me, and I know they won’t be helpful to me as bridesmaids.
Is it inappropriate to not have a wedding party? He seems to think so, but I don’t know what else to do.
Post # 3
It’s not inappropriate at all! You do need someone to sign your marriage license though and depending on what kind of ceremony you’re having you might need someone to stand up for you as well.
We are doing siblings/siblings-in-laws only because we just didn’t want to deal with all the normal drama/financial commitment that comes with a traditional wedding party.
It’s your wedding, do you what works best for you and your fiance!
Post # 4
This reminds me of a post Mrs. Lovebug posted a year ago. Don’t stress out about having a wedding party. This is your wedding, and you should do whatever will make you happiest. If it’s going to cause you more trouble and make you uncomfortable, then don’t do it. You will still have a fabulous wedding with your closest family and friends witnessing your marriage. The people who are closest to you will be there to support you through the wedding process, even if they don’t have the title of bridesmaid or groosmen.
Post # 5
Thanks a lot girls!! I appreciate the input.
Post # 6
first— congrats on beginning the planning! you’re in for a crazy ride!!!
next… it’s YOUR wedding… and your fiance’s too! do it however you want it. you don’t have to have anyone up there if you don’t want to. or you can have 50 attendants! just remember, it’s YOUR wedding. but just like Habibi said, you might need someone to sign as a witness or something for the marriage license, but they still do not have to be an actual attendant. HTH!
Post # 7
I also agree you DO NOT have to have a wedding party. I had trouble picking those friends/family myself & since i’m opting for a destination wedding, it just made more sense for me not to have one. Perhaps choose only a Maid/Matron of Honor or BM??
Post # 8
We’re not having a bridal party either. We love everyone of my family & friends equally and can’t imagine picking any of them over the others to be in our wedding. I think it’s fine to not have a wedding party if that’s what works best for you.
Although, even if your best friends are older you could still ask them to be apart of your bridal prarty. I’d just word it in a way that makes it ok for them to say no. Something like "It would mean a lot to me if you would be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I understand if you don’t feel comfortable". I’m sure it can be worded prettier, but it’s a start. 🙂
Good luck! 😀
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
Perfectly acceptable. I’ve been to two weddings where they only had a best man and maid of honor, I’m not even sure they stood with the bride and groom so it wouldn’t have been much different with out them!
Post # 10
one of my best gfs is getting married in june and doesn’t have a wedding party. if it’s going to stress you out don’t have one – your friends will still help you out! =)