(Closed) Wedding party ideas

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2143 posts
Buzzing bee

My fiance has one sister and I’m having her as my bridesmaid. He’s having my two brothers as his groomsmen. I don’t see a problem with his sister standing on his side. I don’t think you have to call them bridesman and groomswoman though, unless they liked that idea (I don’t think I would). His sister is still standing on my side, and my brothers on his. If you don’t want them to walk down the isle, then what will they be doing? Just standing up there already? If that’s what you want, go for it. Might look a little odd, but it’s not really a big deal in the grand sceme of things and it’ll save the hassle of picking music for them to walk to and save some time as well. Not everyone has to be a wedding party member either. You can always include someone in other ways, such as having them do a reading or asking them to make a toast or something. Just don’t create a huge wedding party if you’re having a small wedding because that looks silly, imo. The sides don’t have to be even 🙂

Post # 4
773 posts
Busy bee

So some churches regulate how the wedding party enters the church.  For example, we are getting married in a Lutheran church, and because a crucifer precedes the processional, all members of the wedding party walk down the aisle.  Something to consider if you want none of them to walk down the aisle…

Post # 5
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m a huge traditionalist..and not seen a woman stand with the groomsmen.  I had (when I married before) a good friend of mine (a guy) who was  a groomsman and my bff’s husband (also my friend) a groomsman too.  They were both on "my side".  And then there were my bridesmaids (all on my side too). 

Honestly these days I’m not into this side or that side.  But I do want my pictures awesome and balanced though. 

There’s really no right and wrong these days..I don’t see a purpose for "sides" at all  anymore..at our wedding there will be just seating probably but will have one side for MOB and MOG and immediate families though. Rest is wherever.

truthfully it might look odd to have things uneven with a few women here, and some men mixed in there.  In the end, hopefully they are all YOUR friends (as a couple) and people you both love so sides don’t really matter..but in pictures it might be "off" and if somebody like my grandma (or some other old people) might roll their eyes and wonder what in the heck was going on.

Post # 6
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What does it matter?

If you’re hung up about it looking weird if women are on the groom’s side wearing a bridesmaid dress, just have the "groomswomen" wear a black dress or something similar to match the groom’s suit/tux.

Wedding parties are friends and loved ones of the bride and the groom–I don’t even think (correct me if I’m wrong) that organized religion has any qualms with mixed gendered wedding parties.

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