Post # 1
Good Morning Bees 🙂
I am just beginning the wedding planning process although I have been engaged for just over a year. I have been thinking a lot about the wedding party and it has really started to worry me. I have always said that I dont really care if the number of bridesmaids is the same as the number of groomsmen. I am not really picky about small details so an uneven wedding party seems like no big deal to me. However, now that we are starting to actually pick our wedding party, I am wondering if our numbers are too far off. I am most likely going to have 6 bridesmaids but my fiance only has 4 groomsmen. Has any one else done this? Does it looks strange in pictures? Like I said, I am really easy going so my gut instinct is to just go with it but I wanted to see if anyone else has experience with this. Did it cause any sort of logistical problems that I am not thinking about? Or am I just being ridiculous? 😉
Any comments/suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
Thank you!!! 🙂
Post # 3
Re – Groomsmen
On the male side of things… there is usually 1 Best Man. And then the required number of Ushers for the venue where you are getting married.
So the first Question would be, have you taken that into account ?
How big is your Guest List… how many aisles at the Ceremony etc.
Example… the Church I was married in the first time had 3 Aisles… so we had an Usher at each doorway. And we could have used an additional one for the busier centre aisle.
Hope this helps,
Post # 4
@theredhead: It’s not the traditional arrangement, so there will be some logistical “problems” if you have your heart set on everything looking traditional. You won’t have 1 bridesmaid and 1 groomsman walking up the aisle together, and it will be slightly unbalanced when they’re standing up with you. There are ways around these things (such as have the last 2 groomsmen walk a bridesmaid on each arm, or having the bridesmaids stand in a staggered formation w/ 2 or 3 of them slightly in front of the others).
For pictures, there are so many different combinations of people and types of poses that I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.
Post # 5
I don’t think a 6/4 thing would look that unbalanced. You could always balance out the photographs in other ways.
As for the processional, you could have a combination of the US and UK traditions (in the UK, the bridesmaids usually follow the bride, not precede her). Have the “coupled” groomsmen and bridesmaids go up the aisle before you, then have the two extra bridesmaids follow you. The advantage to this is that you’ve go the two with you to help you out if needed.
Post # 6
@This Time Round: Good points! I was not including the ushers in the “4 groomsmen” count. One of them is going to be the best man and the other 3 would be the groomsmen. I am going to have one maid of honor and 5 bridesmaids. I do have ushers already picked out so i’m not too concerned about that 🙂 I was more just asking if it was going to look too strange in pictures if there are 6 in my bridal party and then only 4 in his. Thank you so much for your input though!! 🙂
Post # 7
@PinkBubbles: Thank you! I am not completely set on everything looking traditional and I am trying to tell myself that none of my guests really going to notice or care enough 🙂 I am definitely going to talk to my photographer though to get their opinion!!
@clairebbbear: Interesting! I have never heard of that UK tradition. That is definitely something to think about. Thank you 🙂
Post # 8
TO @theredhead: Ok, I am now confused.
What exactly does a Groomsman do if he isn’t an Usher. What is his role / job ?
At least in the Weddings I’ve gone to… the Ushers wore the same outfits, and then stood up for the Groom (so they were the Groom’s Men… in addition to the Best Man)
EDIT TO ADD – So in my first marriage, as I referenced above. There was the Best Man & 3 Ushers. Then I had a Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 Bridesmaids.
Post # 9
@This Time Round: HAHA i have no idea and I may be confused now as well. My fiance was an usher in a wedding but was not one of the groomsmen. However thinking back at another wedding I went to, I think the groomsmen did double as ushers. I have some counsins that I want to include in the wedding but not as groomsmen so I think I am going to use them as ushers.
Post # 10
@theredhead: We’re going to have groomsmen and ushers. We had 4 women and 4 men who we definitely wanted standing up with us, and 3 more guys who we wanted to include but not as strongly, so we’ll have 4 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen, and 3 ushers (and a flower girl). The ushers will seat people before the ceremony and will stand in the back during the ceremony (in case any guests show up late and need to be seated at a non-disruptive time). The ushers will seat the parents at the beginning of the ceremony, so they are somewhat included, but will not be up front w/ us for the ceremony itself. We were considering having an aisle runner, which the ushers would have unrolled, but we’ve decided not to have one.
Post # 11
TO @theredhead: … Ok, just that that can really start to add up with expenses… in that you’ll have to buy them all a nice thank you gift etc.
Much more efficient to have Groom – Best Man – and Ushers. And then they all have a role to do. Extra guys might be nice for your fella, but in reality they don’t do anything.
Unlike Bridesmaids which have a long list of duties (supposedly) for the Bride… in that a keen bunch should help you in many ways… when it comes to Pre-Wedding Arrangements / Celebrations / Day of etc.
Guys… well they just seem to throw the Groom a stag.
Best Man he tends to have a real role too… with lots of responsiblity on his plate. Including Day Of … and perhaps helping the couple with their Honeymoon / Getaway Plans. And in some cases they also act as the MC at the Wedding.
Post # 12
I don’t think this is a problem, I am having 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man and Fiance has 8 Groomsmen. We don’t have any ushers. I think it’ll be fine for the pictures, I googled uneven bridal parties and I thought the pictures seemed fine!
As far as the logistics for the processional/recessional:
-FI and best man will walk down aisle together with officiant before processional. Then for processional: grandparents, MOG and FOG, one the the Groomsmen will escort my mom, than Groomsmen and Bridesmaid or Best Man will walk down in pairs (some Bridesmaid or Best Man escorted by 2 GM) Maid/Matron of Honor will walk alone before me and my dad. Recessional: Fiance and I, best man will exit with Maid/Matron of Honor, Groomsmen will exit with Bridesmaid or Best Man (some Bridesmaid or Best Man will have 2 escorts) then FOG/MOG, FOB/MOB, grandparents