Post # 1
Is there anyone else in the Hive doing Newsletters for the Wedding/Bridal Party? If so, can you tell me how often you are/will be sending them out, and what contents you have included.
I am having a non-traditional wedding and my Wedding Party is small (2 on each side). Half the members have never been in a Wedding Party, while the other half are more used to roles assigned for a traditional wedding. With the exception of one member, the wedding party consists of out-of-towners who will be arriving the day before the event. With that, most their duties will be for the day-off.
Below are the contents for my first issue:
(1) Wedding Planning Update
(2) Wedding Party Introductions
(3) Wedding Party Roles & Responsibilities
(4) Bridal Party Attire
(5) Groom’s Party Attire
(6) Contact Information
What else should I add for the first issue? I was thinking of adding a Wedding Schedule/Timeline and Wedding Party Checklist for later issues.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR INPUT!
Post # 3
I would be careful about listing bridal party responsibilities. It may make you sound like a little bit of a control freak. Even if I had never been in a wedding before I would be put off by getting “marching orders”. I’ve actually never heard of a “newletter” I don’t think the party needs to be updated on the status of things that don’t directly effect them, ie a wedding planning update. Here’s what we did:
Me: One email to all the girls about 10 months out just to introduce them and get each other’s contact email. One email 5 months out giving all the info on ordering the dresses. One email two weeks out on specifics: wedding day and rehearsal day timeline, jewelry, hair and make up appts, etc. For anything else that came up in between I talked to them individually. They are my best friends so I talk to them all the time.
Hubs: Nothing : ) Everything was by phone or text to each individual guy.. and usually done last minute. Cuase thats how he rolls. But it worked.. the boys showed up when they were supposed to and were dressed properly.
Post # 4
@Moose1209: Thanks for your input. You call yours an email, I call mine a newsletter. ToMAYto, toMAHto. Either way, they are correspondences that provide the wedding party with informational material. Mine just happens to be in a structured format with pictures.
Anyone else with actual Newsletter experience? I’ve seen a few Newsletter posts after doing a WeddingBee search but most are older. Am I too late with the times? 😉
Post # 5
@baldor1: i think it’s a cute idea (one of the bees is doing it..miss plaid maybe?). i just send out emails to my ladies because i dont have the design skillz to put it into a newsletter format.
plus, they may think i was even more “type a” than i normallly am if i did that and might stage an intervention (i may already be working on their typed out schedule for the rehearsal and wedding day haha…)
i would be a little careful about their “responsiblities”..if you put anything aside from “buy dress, look presentable” on the newsletter, i would discuss it with them first.
Post # 6
I plan on doing some but I have no idea what to put in it. Im pretty sure my BMs wont care either and I will have to force them to read it, haha. But Im still doing it!!
Post # 7
I agree with blondeeebuckeye comment. I think the idea of a newsletter sounds very cute, but I find impersonal communication can easily go array.
I realize your wedding party is mostly out of town, but it would be worth taking the time to make a few phones calls. My brother emailed the family/wedding party constantly to tell us about our responsibilities and it rubbed a lot of people the wrong way.
I’m not saying your like this, but any impersonal conversation can tend to sound cold to the reader. Just a thought. That being said, I’m think its fine to still go ahead a make a *few* newsletters over the next year.
Post # 8
Got it about the “responsibilites” part. =)
Half the Wedding Party has been known to throw rowdy parties, so mostly I wanted to set straight that the affair was going to be fun but elegant. So I was going to enlist their help with setting the tone for the affair. I figured, if they were enforcing the tone of the event, the less likely they would start and condone a rowdy event.
Also, we will definitely be in regular contact with the wedding party, I just know that many are not as organized, and will need something written to refer back to.
I love the comments, so please keep ’em coming 🙂
Post # 9
Sorry if our replies sounded negative. I think a few of us bees have had bad bridal party experiences.
But it sounds like you have things quite under control. 😉 Can’t think of anything more to add to your first issue. Its sound quite comprehensive.
Post # 10
Its a good idea just dont go overboard like my future sister in law did she literally wrote a book and a minute by minute wedding day schedule ( I am not kidding you it was minute by minute! ) She also listed when we could have “free time” are you kidding me I’m 25 not in the 5th grade! We had to travel to her hometown for the wedding and it was the worst wedding ever and we were never even thanked for coming, and we never got a thankyou note for the gift. I think the least we could get was a thank you if not for the gift then for putting up with her crazy bridezilla a** for two days!
Sorry bees but I needed to let that out!
Post # 11
I’m totally type A and would have loved to have gotten something like this as a bridesmaid. As a bride, I tried to have a newsletter, but our party wasn’t very receptive…. I ended up just calling everyone individually to make sure the information was conveyed correctly and that no one was offended :o)
Post # 12
Don’t be annoying about it. I was in a wedding where she sent it out every Friday. I really don’t care, as a bridesmaid, that you found your bridal shoes and made an appointment with a band. All I needed to know was where are we getting dresses, are we coming to the bridal dress shopping, ect.