(Closed) Wedding party = no gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They may think that, since they put so much expense into the wedding already.  They presumably bought a dress, had a shower, bachelorette, got their hair and/or makeup done, bought new shoes and jewelry, may have had to take some time off of work…  It’s expensive to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and maybe they thought this was sufficient (I do!). 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

When I’ve been in a wedding, I’ve bought gifts at the shower but not to the wedding.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

all of our groomsmen gave gifts, they all brought a plus one. bridesmaids were all single and all gave gifts except BFF. She didn’t even give a card. my feelings were hurt because she and I used to exchange cards with such loving feeling… I was surprised..but all that matters is that they were there with us. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hmm. I know that when Fiance was in a wedding last week he gave a really nice gift. In general, I think bridesmaids can get away with just a shower gift, but I would kind of expect gifts at both. In talking with my maids about this (pre-FI), they said they always bought a gift for the shower and gave cash at the wedding. Their SOs would give a wedding gift. This is on top of any showers, bachelor(ettes), attire, and beauty (if required).

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think most times the BMs and groomsmen will pitch in for a gift. Then again, if the wedding was a big expense to them, they may not have extra funds to consider a gift. I guess it depends on how much they spent to be in the wedding and their budgets.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If someone worked at my wedding like your MC, then I’d assume that was their gift to me.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I understand it when BM’s don’t give a gift, the wedding is a huge expense for them, and many won’t after all their other expenses for the wedding are factored in. As for the emcee and the Groomsmen, to me that is just silly. The emcee doesn’t have any costs for helping in the wedding, and the Groomsmen have very minimal costs. They don’t have a shower gift and shower to put together, or hair, nails and makeup costs, and most often the suits are rented for fairly cheap compared to the girls dresses. 

I would be annoyed if they all brought dates and didn’t give a gift.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My MoH gave a gift, the best man did not (we only had the two).

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I paid for my girls hair and makeup, they paid for their dress and shoes. My Maid/Matron of Honor gave a very generous gift, the other BMs gave generously except 1. She gifted nothing, and her Fiance no-showed. There’s so much more to that story but I won’t go there.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@abbie017:  +1

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think your guy’s friends are just thoughtless clods.  My DH’s brother and best friend didn’t so much as bring a card, either.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmmm I didn’t realize that may happen. One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man whose daughter was our flower girl gave a gift. My Maid/Matron of Honor / sister gave a creative homemade gift as times are tough. One of our bridal party members did not give a gift or card which I found odd as she asked if she could combine my Bday and wedding gift as it was in the same month? 

I didn’t realize being in the Bridal party they would not at least give a card saying congrats. 

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