(Closed) Wedding Party not in Ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1677 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oooh. I am having a wedding with only 26 of my closest family followed by a formal dinner. Then, we are having two larger “receptions” in my FH’s and my hometown. I had to cut my bridal party from 5 people to 2 and those 3 are understanding of my situation, but still I think they are a little sad. I’ll be following this post to see what others say and how I can apply it since three of my best friends wont be at the ceremony.

Post # 4
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I really don’t think you can have bridesmaids or groomsmen who are not included in the ceremony.  Typically, attendants are family members or people you feel are as close to you as family, and by not inviting them to the ceremony, you’re saying they are not as close as family.  If only family is invited to the ceremony, you’ll need to have family members as attendants if you have attendants at all.

For invitations for your at-home reception, you would treat it like any other reception.  The wording can be as formal or informal as you like.  Try Googling “reception invitation” for ideas.

You can never “expect” gifts for any wedding.  However, it’s fine to have a registry, so long as you don’t include it on or with the invitations.  That way, if people want to give you gifts, they have a way of finding out what you’d like.

Post # 5
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

First thought-I agree with the above poster.  It does not make sense to have bridesmaids and groomsmen that are not in the ceremony, as that is their primary role. 

Another thought-Is having your wedding at a destination that is far away of such importance, that you are willing to leave behind your wedding party?  If I was one of your bridesmaids, I would definitely feel hurt.  To me, this is another reason for you to not have a wedding party at all. 

I am currently a Maid/Matron of Honor and I could not imagine not being a part of my friend’s special day.

Post # 6
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re considering doing something similar, but we’re not planning on having attendants.  If I were you, I’d include the attendants in the ceremony.  They should be close enough friends that you can sit down with them and explain your budget situation and tell them if they’d like to attend the ceremony they’ll have to pay their own way.  If they can’t, no hard feelings.

Post # 8
16 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lovebirds0627:  ii was a bridesmaid in a sitch like this. they got married at a city hall though, so there was absolutely no room from extra ppl. i would say if you have a Maid/Matron of Honor and best man in your party, at least have them at the ceremony. my brother is getting married in the temple with his wife and is having a party months later. they asked me to be a bridesmaid and i will just be sitting with them at the dinner during the party, wearing a special colored dress, and taking some special pictures. i do not expect anything else tho and if your girls/guys understand the deal than they shouldnt either. and i would do a registry! the one i was involved with had the normal registries and they receieved a bunch of gifts…since you are hosting a celebration of your marriage, i think its perfectly acceptable 🙂

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