(Closed) Wedding Party or No Wedding Party?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Wedding party options:
    Have a wedding party - Choose two friends : (1 votes)
    13 %
    Have a wedding party - Choose fiance's sisters : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Don't have a wedding party : (5 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    139 posts
    Blushing bee

    backtothestart:  My husband and I opted not to have a wedding party. We had your problem in reverse; we were getting married far away from my husband’s college friends and my husband was working abroad at the time, so coordinating groomsman would have been difficult. Also, I had many family and friends to choose from, as well as three future sisters-in-law, and we decided it would be easier just to do without. For the actual ceremony (it was religious), we had our oldest sisters act as witnesses, but they didn’t process in or carry bouquets or wear matching dresses.

    I really loved not having a wedding party, because it was just more details that we didn’t have to worry about, and all of our friends/family that would have been in the wedding party just got to come and have a good time.

    If witnesses are required for the ceremony, would you be okay with just having FI’s friends? Also, something to keep in mind is whether or not you would expect bridesmaids to go with you for dress shopping or throw a bachelorette. I didn’t purchase a dress (heirloom), extended family/friends threw a shower, and my older sister put together a small bachelorette party (without prompting/requests from me). Definitely consider if you will miss the potential support of a wedding party.

    Post # 3
    Member
    2394 posts
    Buzzing bee

    backtothestart:  I didn’t have a wedding part and I LOVED it. I was in a similar situation in-that I don’t have any close, close girlfriends who live nearby, but too many acquaintances to ask all of them. My fiance and I decided to make the wedding just about us – not about putting on a play where the characters had to look a certain way and stand in a particular place. I feel like it made planning less stressful, and made the ceremony feel more authentic. 

    I’m also of the mind-set that your bridesmaids don’t help you plan, they just show up on the day of to support you. So I didn’t feel like I was lacking anything during the planning process. My friends were still willing to chat with me about wedding stuff and seemed genuinely interested. The ONLY thing I didn’t “get” was a traditional bridal shower/bachelorette, because I didn’t have a bridal party. But truly, your wedding isn’t about the bridal shower, and now that I’m married I really don’t care that it didn’t happen in the traditional way. 

    My wedding was perfect and I wouldn’t go back and change it for the world. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    2134 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We are doing one best man and one Maid/Matron of Honor. Honestly it’s the best decision we have made thus far. I am full of stress and anxiety, so I cannot fathom having wedding party stress on top of it.

    Post # 8
    Member
    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Not having a bridal party was one of the best wedding decisions we made! We thought about having a small party or just a best man and maid of honor, but we didn’t want pick and choose which friends to include, nor did we want the extra stress. The friends we wanted to have with us that day were there anyway, just not in specified outfits and they didn’t have to stand up with us during the ceremony. Darling Husband still got to hang out with his best pals before the ceremony, and I had my closest friends getting ready with me as well. It was a very personal, team effort kind of wedding day, and I think everyone we might have chosen to be in a wedding party felt loved and included despite the lack of titles.

    Also, as a side note, no one ever asked us about that decision. I thought people might think it was an odd choice, but no one seemed to really notice or care!

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