Post # 1
I am a social person, however, I have no close relationships. I am really having trouble with deciding who I should ask to be my M.O.H, or even bridesmaides. I have a very large family but they are scattered across the U.S. and many I haven’t seen sinse I was a young teen. I am feeling very overwhelmed with this task. I feel like if I ask from the connection I have (not close, or personal) it may come off really odd, or weird. Not sure what to do.
Post # 2
whamminga : do you feel that you HAVE to have a bridal party? Is it possible to go without one?
Post # 3
You don’t need a bridal party. I didn’t and I found it a huge relief to not deal with the stress.
Post # 4
Yes, my hubby to be has already asked his brother to be his best man and 2 friends he has grown up with to stand up with him. I am thankfull that is small. lol
Post # 5
But that still doesn’t mean YOU have to have bridesmaids. Sides don’t have to be even. Just because he has people on his side doesn’t mean you need the same number (or any people at all) on your side. If you sincerely have no one to ask, asking no one is better than asking people you aren’t close to out of pressure or perceived embarassment – it will just cause you more headaches in the end.
It’s clearly stressing you out to try to pick people. So don’t.
Post # 6
Bridesmaids aren’t a requirement. Don’t stress this.
Post # 7
If you do really want them, do you have sisters? They make good default bridesmaids 😛
Post # 8
bridal parties don’t have to be even? My Darling Husband had 3 groomsmen and I had one bridesmaid… we don’t have any photos (apart from the ceremony) where we are standing side by side, and it was exactly as we would have wanted it. I would have hated choosing 2 more people to make it even.
Not saying you have to do this, just saying that it’s ok if you have 1 or none 🙂
Post # 9
Another side note is that you don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor. They can all be bridesmaids.
Post # 10
whamminga : you can do whatever you want. My Darling Husband had a best man, and I asked my nieces to be flower girls. I felt like it would be way too much drama for me to choose between my friends, and I think they were relieved to not have to buy dresses! Whereas the kids were delighted to be part of the wedding!
Post # 11
If your wedding date is really in 2019 don’t worry about bridesmaids just yet. I’ve had a really long engagement (2.5 years so far) and at that point I didn’t feel like I had many close friends. When I got engaged a lot was changing in my life (moving, graduating college etc), because of those life changes I ended up gaining some very close friends, and I plan to ask them to be bridesmaids soon. So don’t worry too much, just because you don’t have any close relationships now doesn’t mean you won’t gain some before the wedding
Post # 12
Yes agree with pp. If it really is well over two years away , don’t stress yet ! Give it a year before doing anything re bridesmaids.
Post # 13
whamminga : Do you have any children? I am planning on just having our children as our wedding party.