Wedding Party Problems, Overwhelming

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
4084 posts
Honey bee

whamminga :  do you feel that you HAVE to have a bridal party? Is it possible to go without one?

Post # 3
454 posts
Helper bee

You don’t need a bridal party. I didn’t and I found it a huge relief to not deal with the stress.

Post # 5
4607 posts
Honey bee

But that still doesn’t mean YOU have to have bridesmaids.  Sides don’t have to be even.  Just because he has people on his side doesn’t mean you need the same number (or any people at all) on your side.  If you sincerely have no one to ask, asking no one is better than asking people you aren’t close to out of pressure or perceived embarassment – it will just cause you more headaches in the end.

It’s clearly stressing you out to try to pick people.  So don’t. 

Post # 6
3289 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Bridesmaids aren’t a requirement. Don’t stress this. 

Post # 7
3873 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you do really want them, do you have sisters? They make good default bridesmaids 😛

Post # 8
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

bridal parties don’t have to be even? My Darling Husband had 3 groomsmen and I had one bridesmaid… we don’t have any photos (apart from the ceremony) where we are standing side by side, and it was exactly as we would have wanted it. I would have hated choosing 2 more people to make it even.

Not saying you have to do this, just saying that it’s ok if you have 1 or none 🙂

Post # 9
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Another side note is that you don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor. They can all be bridesmaids.

Post # 10
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

whamminga :  you can do whatever you want. My Darling Husband had a best man, and I asked my nieces to be flower girls. I felt like it would be way too much drama for me to choose between my friends, and I think they were relieved to not have to buy dresses! Whereas the kids were delighted to be part of the wedding! 

Post # 11
23 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

If your wedding date is really in 2019 don’t worry about bridesmaids just yet. I’ve had a really long engagement (2.5 years so far) and at that point I didn’t feel like I had many close friends. When I got engaged a lot was changing in my life (moving, graduating college etc), because of those life changes I ended up gaining some very close friends, and I plan to ask them to be bridesmaids soon. So don’t worry too much, just because you don’t have any close relationships now doesn’t mean you won’t gain some before the wedding


Post # 12
8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

whamminga : 

Yes agree with pp. If it really is well over two years away , don’t stress yet ! Give it a year before doing anything re  bridesmaids.

Post # 13
32 posts
  • Wedding: September 2020

whamminga :  Do you have any children? I am planning on just having our children as our wedding party.

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