Post # 1
Let me know what you think of this:
I’m possibly adding a Bridesmaid or Best Man this week to my August 23rd wedding. Initally she was supposed to be one and it didn’t work and we still really want her apart of our day – so we’re working out budget things with her – looks like it’s a go! *FIngers Crossed*
Would you tink anything of it if, since the Bridesmaid or Best Man side will be one bigger, if my two Ushers walked her in, and instead of sitting down, stood up at the church with the rest of the GM’s? They will all be wearing the exact same thing.
My thought is that I would just have a Groomsmen escort her and stand up, but that would leave one Groomsmen out and that’s not fair. And I really can’t pressure someone new to hurry up and buy a dress, to add a new Bridesmaid or Best Man….
I know it’s unconventional – but it could work?? What do you think?
Post # 3
More and more bridal parties are comprised of an uneven number of GMs/BMs, so I say go for it. It’s more important to be surrounded by the most important people in your life rather than worrying about symmetry.
What if the GMs entered the wedding w/ your Fiance and went straight to the front, and the BMs entered individually in front of you w/o escorts? That way, no one will be counting if pairs are matched up.
Post # 4
I’m sure this is a regional difference, but I’m actually used to seeing the GMs start out at the front of the church with the groom. The BMs walk in alone, one at a time, followed by the bride. The BMs and GMs don’t pair up until they walk out, following the bride and groom. Remembering the weddings I’ve been in, I don’t every remember being walked to the altar area – only taking the GMs arm to walk out. By then everybody is turned around watching the bride and groom exit anyway, so it doesn’t matter, and you can have one Groomsmen escort a Bridesmaid or Best Man on each arm, or have an usher step up from the front row and walk the extra Bridesmaid or Best Man out. I would actually go for letting one Groomsmen escort a Bridesmaid or Best Man on each arm.
Post # 5
Two gals and one fella… it really doesn’t look bad! My sis did it at her wedding b/c her hubby has like 5 some odd brothers and a few friends he asked (he could stop himself LOL), so I had one gent on each arm!
ORRRRRR have her do a reading- that way she’s included in a special way. (Which is what I did with my friends that I didn’t have as BMs).
Post # 6
I agree with the above, I have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 3 Groomsmen, and a junior bridesmaid. Men are walking in with FH and when they exit, usher’s will walk junior Bridesmaid or Best Man back down aisle. Myself and FH are going back up the aisle to exit rows ourselves, to personally thank each guest, and relieve us of a receiving line!! Also, it’s 2008, do it YOUR way!!
Post # 7
I love the idea of a Bridesmaid or Best Man walking with 2 groomsmen but, like Suzanno, I am more used to the idea of the groomsmen waiting at the alter with the groom. That way he doesn’t feel lonely & having uneven numbers isn’t such a big deal. By the time the recessional comes, everyone will be looking at you anyway! = )
Post # 8
Thanks you guys! I’m kinda bummed because the new Bridesmaid or Best Man just can’t afford the whole deal and I tried to help by offereing some reliefe by paying for parts and it still just didn’t work 🙁 She will still be there and that is all that really matter!!!
All your advice was really helpful though, and made get even more excited about adding her!!! More then I was in the first place.