(Closed) Wedding Party Stress

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

so you have 3 or 4 options?

and are uncomfortable with a 3 or 4 to 1 spilt?

and dont want to ask 2 because they didnt involve you?


seems you have your answer… the other 1 or 2 are your bridesmaid/man

Post # 3
7637 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How about no wedding party, but using the Best Man in another way? He still signs the register and gives a speech, but he isn’t in a tux and standing up the front during the ceremony.

Post # 4
3804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you have 3 or 4 options and some are men could the men stand on your FI’s side? They don’t have to get ready with him or anything it could be purely for the ceremony for the look of it. Or what PPs have suggested. Or just do 3 to 1 and it’s fine, my sister had 2 BMs and 4 Groomsmen. Honestly whatever you do will be fine. Does your Fiance have a brother he might add to his side? 

Post # 5
605 posts
Busy bee

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beelieve245 : I have had a severly hard time picking too. I have decided on my mom’s BFF’s daughter. She is the closest thing I have to a sister (I have sisters but long story short…they aren’t invited) and I know she will do great at the important things, like keeping me calm and getting ready with me. 

My fiancée’s cousin and his bride did not have bridal parties. Despite the bride having 4 bffs, whose wedding parties she had been in. They opted for their respective grandfathers to sign their wedding certificate and I thought it was quite sweet and an awesome idea! That is another reason why I am asking who I am asking. My fiancée is asking her sister to stand up with her so I figured, I will ask my “sister”. Keep the cousin tradition of each picking a family member going. 🙂

Another suggestion if you don’t want to pick the heads of your families to sign the certificate with you is having a couple whose marriage you respect and admire be the ones to sign your marriage certificate. I thought about that one pretty hard. We do have a couple whose marriage we really admire and if my fiancée didn’t want her sister so bad I would have jumped on that.

I hope these help in your brain storming of alternatives. 🙂

Post # 6
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

i also had such a hard time. if i could go back i would just have uneven numbers or no bridal party at all! we have 4. 

Post # 7
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I understand how you are feeling like this, i was in the exact same position. No sisters and same thing in the friend situation, no one ive kept super close throughout my life and i had to do inward reflecting on why. I have 4 bridesmaids, one is my cousin, two good friends, and one is FI’s cousin lol. Fiance on the other hand has 5. Im ok with the uneven number because im also doing two flower girls.

Dont stress. Do your 2 or three friends if you wish..see if he can add another or just do an uneven number.

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