(Closed) Wedding party survey

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 5
How many Groomsmen? 5
How did you arrive at that/those numbers? It just worked out so that we both had five people we wanted. For my fiancé it’s five close friends from different parts of his life and for me it’s my sister and four close friends.
About how many guests? We haven’t finalized our invitations, but we expect about 150
How did you arrive at that number? For the bridesmaids/groomsmen it was just the people we wanted. For the wedding guests we each wrote out all the people we wanted to invite and then compared lists. Family was automatically invited, but friends who were on one list and not the other were discussed (if necessary, sometimes they were just overlooked). Then we compared this list with the cost of inviting everyone and made some cuts based on our budget to get down to 150.
How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? Not sure about my fiancé, but for me it was my sister and best friend from high school as the MOHs, and then three close friends as bridesmaids. Two of them I was also a bridesmaid in their wedding, and one was just a really natural choice.

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 2-my sisters

How many Groomsmen? 2-his brothers

How did you arrive at that/those numbers? siblings!

About how many guests? 125

How did you arrive at that number? the square we’re getting married at has a max of 100, but the town coordinator said “keep it around 120” haha. That’s literally how we got our #

How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? our siblings!! and we wanted it to be simple and special. we knew it either had to be around 7 on each side or 2. now we’ll always know our bridal party ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

How many Bridesmaids are you having? – 3

How many Groomsmen? – 3

How did you arrive at that/those numbers? – I have a sister, Fiance has a sister. We both have no brothers. So I asked both sisters plus my best friend, he asked 3 friends.

About how many guests? About 100-115

How did you arrive at that number? Based on number the venus can hold, but mainly that’s the total amount of our close friends and family (immediate family plus aunts/uncles/cousins) 

How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? – For the bridesmaids it was a fairly obvious choice because I asked both sisters and my best friend. For groomsmen the best man was an obvious choice and he asked 2 other close friends. 

 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

IveBeenDreaming:  

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 2
How many Groomsmen? 2
How did you arrive at that/those numbers? We were having a small wedding ceremony (family only), and I felt that we didn’t need a HUGE amount of people standing next to us.
About how many guests? about 40 were at our ceremony, over 200 at our reception
How did you arrive at that number? Ceremony was family only (parents, grandparents, siblings, nephews, aunts, uncles). The reception was cousins and their kids, and then friends and family friends.
How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my now-SIL was my Bridesmaid or Best Man. Darling Husband had his brother has his Bridesmaid or Best Man, and his Brother-In-Law (sister’s hubby, they’re very close) as Groomsmen.

 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Cambridge Mill

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 4
How many Groomsmen? 4
How did you arrive at that/those numbers? Fiance has 2 very close friends, his Brother and brother in Law, so I picked my four best friends. 
About how many guests? 118 are on the invite list
How did you arrive at that number? We have invited our closest friends and family only. 
How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? It was kinda a no brainer, these girls have been there for me whenever I needed them, they are like sisters to me, so who better to share this special day with!

 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 4.
How many Groomsmen? 4.

How did you arrive at that/those numbers? Simple decision we made thinking about who to ask.
About how many guests? Currently sitting at 218.
How did you arrive at that number? Our freaking massive friends and family lists.
How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? I wanted to stick with family on my side, he has two family members and 2 close friends on his.

 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

• How many Bridesmaids are you having? 5 (MOH, 2Bridesmaid or Best Man, 2 Jr. BM)
• How many Groomsmen? 5 (Best Man, 2 Groomsmen, 2 Jr.GM)
• How did you arrive at that/those numbers? Friends are BMs and GMs, Jrs. are my fiancé’s son, nephew, niece and my cousin. Next year they will be 10, 16. 13, 14 respectively ๐Ÿ™‚
• About how many guests? 130+
• How did you arrive at that number? Just started a guest list of people we want at our wedding, friends and family and it turns our we’re inviting more than 200 people (that’s with +1 and kids), but not everyone will come, so we’re thinking about 130 will show up.
• How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? Friends and family. There was no hard decisions. I’m a bit worried about my Maid/Matron of Honor because she is super busy with work and studies, but she’s my best friend, so the choice was obvious.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 5
How many Groomsmen? 2-3
How did you arrive at that/those numbers? Bridesmaids: I have two sisters, a lifelong friend, my best friend of 17 years, and another of my best friends of 12 years. Fiance has a brother (best man) and 1 or two good friends he is going to ask
About how many guests? Inviting 70, expecting 50
How did you arrive at that number? The guests we are inviting are our families and only people we spend time with and see regularly. No colleagues or anything
How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? They are literally the people I want close to me on the day to celebrate with

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 1

How many Groomsmen? 1

How did you arrive at that/those numbers? I didn’t want tons of people hovering around me on the day of the wedding (introvert here!) wearing me out before we even got to the ceremony so Fiance agreed to keep the wedding party small. We figure most people really don’t want to be paraded around in matching outfits all day anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

About how many guests? 100-120

How did you arrive at that number? That’s everyone we cared to invite. Thankfully neither of our parents had people they wanted to invite that we would not have.

How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man has been his BFF for years. They have known for a while that they would be Bridesmaid or Best Man in each other’s weddings (BM is also engaged). Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend from college. I was Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding last year. By keeping it small, we knew exactly who to ask and didn’t have to draw an awkward line between who was asked and who wasn’t. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 6 (1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 5 bridesmaids)

How many Groomsmen? 4 (maybe 5)

How did you arrive at that/those numbers? I have friends from various times in my life, all of whom I wanted to include–and who I know would have been hurt to not be included. Fiance is having his two best friends, my brother, and his Brother-In-Law.

About how many guests? 160 or so.

How did you arrive at that number? BUDGET.

How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? Siblings, my cousin, close friends since childhood onward… I actually had a really hard time with whether or not to include FI’s sister and my under-18 cousin. Those two ladies will be our “attendants,” in an usher-like role. Everybody wins: Future Mother-In-Law is happy, my mom and aunt are happy, and I don’t have double the bridesmaids as groomsmen. 

Post # 26
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

IveBeenDreaming:  

How many Bridesmaids are you having? – 6 (4 bridemaids, 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, and 1 Man of Honor)
How many Groomsmen? – 6 (4 groomsmen, 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 1 groomsmaid)
How did you arrive at that/those numbers? – They’re our closest, dearest friends/family
About how many guests? – 30-35 (we’ve having a DW)
How did you arrive at that number? – We wanted to keep it small. Basically we decided to only invite immediate family and our bridal party (plus their SOs)
How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? – I’ve known exactly who I would ask for at least the past 5 years, same with Fiance

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

1. 3

2. 3

3. Two are my best friends since highschool and the other…..if I didn’t ask I would never have heard the end of it. I wanted an even number, so I had to match my FH’s groomsmen 

4. We are inviting 65

6. I asked them before I was engaged.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

How many Bridesmaids are you having? Three.

How many Groomsmen? Four.

How did you arrive at that/those numbers? My Fiance and I originally had five and five. We had one groomsman step down for personal reasons. I fired two bridesmaid because I found out early on they were two-faced and talking smack. To my face they talked their way into the wedding party (which was fine at the time because my Fiance and I originally wanted even numbers) and were super excited on paper…I later found out that they were telling people I had begged them to be in the wedding, and they only took me up on it because they felt sorry for me…and for the whole time they’d known me I’d been some sort of ‘project’ for them, and they saw me as more of a ‘pet’ than ‘friend’. They had been best friends since high school, and have habitually always had a ‘third’ friend they kept around for varying lengths of time. Apparently the only reason they brought me around was because they needed a third roommate/friend to afford their apartment after the other girl got sick of their shit and moved out.Yeah…that friendship disolved.

About how many guests? We invited 40, final headcount will be 32 (not everyone wanted a plus one)

How did you arrive at that number? Our original number was going to be in the 50-60 range. But when the final falling out with my parents happened, I decided not to invite anyone from my family. I wasn’t close with my family anyways, and I didn’t want drama. In fact, my family doesn’t even know my wedding is even happening.

How did you decide who to ask to be in your wedding party? The guys were simple. My Fiance asked his four friends and his brother. Then one friend stepped down, and disaphered from our life shortly after. We are still scratching our heads about him. We toyed around with the idea of asking my brother to be a groomsman too, but because of the estrangement from my parents we decided not to. For me it was a little harder. I asked my best friend, and another friend I have known for over four years (who also happens to be the wife of a groomsman) right away. I asked them because I felt the closest with them. I then decided to ask another girl I was close with, who is the now-wife of another groomsman. I thought we had a good friendship (albeit newer), but this last year has shown me I was maybe a little hasty. But I am sticking with her. As for the last two original bridesmaids…at the time of them becoming bridesmaids we were still friends. They talked their way in, and I was ok with it because we had a history, and like I said before, my Fiance and I originally wanted even numbers. When I asked them to step down, my Fiance and I agreed that it shouldn’t be about the numbers, and I didn’t ask anyone else to take their place.

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

We are having 3 bridesmaids/dudes and 3 groomsmen. For my Fiance it was an easy decision. He just asked his 2 brothers and best friend. For me it was a little tougher. I knew I wanted my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and originally wanted to have my 3 best friends along with her as BMs but eventually decided not to because they aren’t very reliable and all have busy lives. I didn’t want to set myself up for drama or disappointment and decided that my friends would be better as guests, so I ended up asking my 2 brothers to be my BridesBros instead! We are having 100 guests. We were orginally thinking around 70 but the venue we booked included pricing for 100 guests, so we might as well get what we pay for!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

How many Bridesmaids are you having? 3
How many Groomsmen? 1 
How did you arrive at that/those numbers? My nieces are my bridesmaids (because they are the ones who really want to get dressed up in fluffy dresses) and my Fiance wanted his best friend to be his best man. Sides don’t match, my friends are organizing showers etc., and are happy not to have to wear wedding colors!
About how many guests? 70
How did you arrive at that number? Made a list of all the people we absolutely wanted to have at our wedding – it was around 60-70.  Then we added all the people we wanted to invite (another ~70) – it’s a Destination Wedding, so I think it works out at around 70 ๐Ÿ™‚

 

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