(Closed) Wedding Party Table vs. Sweetheart Table?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

We are doing a sweetheart table so we can eat and then mingle with our guests and move between tables.

It kind of depends on what you want to do during dinner.  If you want to kick it with your bridal party – then do the round with the wedding party.  The head table makes it difficult to interact with the entire table, IMO.

Post # 4
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re doing a sweetheart table.  We could have sat with our BMs and GMs but that would have meant them sitting without their dates for everyone to fit.  If I get to sit with my honey, they should too!  So sweetheart table it is!  I think we are going to feel a little on display sitting by ourselves but we figure we won’t be sitting long since we plan to go table to table to say thank you to everyone. 

Post # 5
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree that the head table kinda feels like a bizarre display. I like the sweetheart table, but I really wanted to be able to have the time with our wedding party. The best wedding i’ve been to had the bride, groom, and attendants at a normal round among the rest of the guests, and it was great! We’ll do something similar to that, but our “regular” table will be in the front and center of the room (not separated from the rest tho).

Post # 6
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We chose a sweetheart table because my Bridesmaid or Best Man and his Groomsmen are not couples.  We did not want their spouses to eat solo – and we did not want a head table that included all of their SO plus us.  So… a sweetheart table and the BMs/GMs and their spouses will eat at the regular round tables.

Post # 7
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We will be doing a sweetheart table. I think that no matter where you sit, you will be on display. You will be wearing your wedding gown, so you will definately stick out 🙂

I want the wedding party to be able to sit with their families, so for me, the sweetheart table is the way to go.

Post # 8
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are actually doing a HUGE head table, probably a big square, so our wedding party and their SOs can sit with us. 

Post # 9
2820 posts
Sugar bee

We did a big table but not with most of the wedding party and not on display.

Our wedding party prefered to sit with their dates than sit with us, not offended we’d been hanging out with them a lot, and there was just too many of them to put at one table.  So we sat with our close friends who weren’t in the wedding party who’d traveled far, some from overseas, that we rarely got to see.  It was really nice because we didn’t feel the need to jump up right away to go socialize since we were greeting people just by sitting at the table and eating.

Post # 10
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

we has “sweetheart-ish” our officiant who is a really close friend and her date were at our table, but we had some smaller tables mixed in!

Post # 11
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m all about the sweatheart table.  But I think it depends on the couple.  My man and I are very affectionate and we LOVE food and want to have a place to be alone with one another to reflect on the ceremony and enjoy the dinner we are paying a fortune for.  But I know lots of other poeple that want to share the time with their friends and family while at dinner.

Post # 12
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been worrying about this myself, because we have 3 BMs and GMs, and plus their SO’s equals way too many people! But we know we want to be surrounded by our best friends so it’s very hard to figure out what to do :

Post # 13
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

as a bm, i prefer the sweetheart table because i don’t like sitting up on display and being so far from the other guests at a traditional head table. my bestie did a sweetheart table in the middle of the rest of the tables and let the bridal party sit wherever, which was great since my bf was coming and didn’t know that many people [it was his first time meeting a lot of my friends!] so it was really nice being able to sit with him after being seperated all day.

i did attend another wedding where the bride and groom sat with the groom’s family at a regular table [the bride’s parents had both passed away] and the wedding party was scattered around the room at different tables. that’s another option.

Post # 14
5150 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

My fh and I were going to sit with our parents but now I am thinking that a sweetheart table is sounding pretty darn good!! 🙂 I think it depends on the couple and the wedding party as well though.

Post # 15
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m thinking a big “regular” table right now, but I could change my mind. I just think we’d enjoy being able to sit and talk with our wedding party and closest family if only for a few minutes. Also I’m planning on a daytime wedding so we would have plenty of time alone together later. Other than that…I can’t see us doing a head table, but sweetheart might be an option.

Post # 16
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I’m hoping we’re able to do a captain’s table. As a Bridesmaid or Best Man I found it awkward at the head table not just because we were on display (which I did feel), but it was so difficult to interact with the rest of the party due to being linear and unable to chat with everyone. I’m hoping to be able to see everyone and have everyone carry on and chat while we’re eating. 🙂 Just don’t know if it’ll work for the venue.

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