Post # 1
We are having our ceremony at the reception site. I’m having a hard time making a decision on if I should have more than just a maid of honor and best man. Should I have bridesmaids & groomsmen too? Also, my fiance and I have grown apart from some past close friends, what do we do??
Post # 3
You should only have bridesmaids and groomsman if there are extra special people in your life that you want by your side on your special day. Don’t just have them to have them, because in the end they will be an added expense you don’t need.
Post # 4
You should have the people who matter to you up there with you. Don’t select attendants just for the sake of attendants. However, do consider who will be helping you plan various aspects of the wedding—do you intend on having a bridal shower, bachelorette party? Traditionally the wedding party is in charge of these, so even if you do not want more than one attendant each you may still want to enlist the help of others (like your mom, aunts, other friends) even if they are not members of the wedding party.
Post # 5
My cousin had just one Maid/Matron of Honor and one Best man and I thought it was just fine. The wedding was small and intimate and seemed perfect.
Post # 6
Thank you girls! I feel so much better. I’ve decided to include my sister of course Maid/Matron of Honor, and two of my closest girlfriends.
Post # 7
I agree with previous posters. I’m only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and two bridesmaids. They represent my good friends from high school, college and grad school. I love the intimacy of a small wedding party and was never one to have a ton of close girlfriends.
I think you made the right decision with your wedding party and you will be so happy that you didn’t include anyone based on obligation.
Post # 8
We’re doing family only – so my sister and my bro-in-law on my side and my FH’s younger brothers on his side. Our wedding is Not Small by any means…guest list is at 300.
We just decided we wanted our family standing up for us during what is really a very family moment. It doesn’t mean we don’t love our friends – who are also invited to the engagement party and will be invited to the rehearsal dinner and of course, the wedding. And one of my girlfriends has already offered to help my sister plan my bachelorette.
I am completely uncomfortable with the idea of asking my best friends to buy a new dress that they will most likely never wear again. I know they would have done it but I would have felt guilty asking them to spend any extra amount of money.
Not one person has questioned our decision and I doubt anyone will question yours either!