Post # 1
Has anyone ever heard of one? Done one themselves?
We got married at the end of January, and it was a lovely day when you subtract all the family drama from it 😉 I have our pictures now, and because of some poor planning/me not putting my foot down I’m a little bummed out by how few pictures we actually got of my husband and I. Essentially, I made the mistake of caving to one side of the family’s insistence that every single extended family member needed to be present for pictures, which led to having every single extended family member of the other side be invited as well to keep things fair. (Basically, we couldn’t have every single one of his cousins present for formal pictures and then not have every single one of my cousins present. That sort of thing) I definitely should have just put my foot down and said immediate family only! Because we didn’t have a first look (something else I let people talk me out of and shouldn’t have!) And because trying to take family pictures took SO long, I realize that we have very few pictures of just my husband and I together. (Which honestly were the pictures we really wanted!) We just didn’t have the time to get anything more than a few shots taken of us together.
In regards to the idea of retaking the pictures, they likely wouldn’t be shot in the same location, or with the same photographer because of us moving since the wedding. The few pictures we do have together are nice, but there are just so few “posed” shots that I find myself wishing we had more. Any advice on whether or not a reshoot would be worth it?
Post # 2
I don’t think I’d put the dress back on and try to basically just re-create the wedding day, but I do think you could easily buy yourself a cute new outfit and get some professional photos taken! That way you’ll have some of the two of you but they won’t feel forced or inauthentic as they might if you try to literally re-create the wedding shoot.
Post # 3
I would consider doing a reshoot but maybe go to a completely different type of location and style yourselves a bit differently. You could still wear your suit and wedding dress but maybe wear your hair different(e.g loose if it was up for the wedding) and have different makeup. You could go for a really dramatic style and do your makeup heavy or you could try a really relaxed look instead with flowing hair and light makeup. I would aim to create new photos and style, not recreate what you had on the day.
Post # 4
I think this idea is weird. If you want professional photos of your and your hubby, that’s fine. Hire a photographer and get some taken in a park or something. But recreating your wedding photos? It’s not your wedding, you got your one day … I’d always look at them and feel awkward. And I can’t imagine how I’d feel if I were at someone’s house and they said “Yeah, check out this canvas print, my Aunt Martha kept pushing my cousins into the shot so we re-did our wedding photos 8 months later! Don’t they look great?”
Post # 5
If you want more photos of the two of you, definitely go for it. I like the idea of having the suit and wedding dress but different hair and make up so as to not seem like you’re trying to recreate the day.
Post # 6
sensoda : Yeah, we are definitely not trying to recreate the day, and I cut a good 10 inches of my hair off since that day, so I don’t think I could redo my wedding hairstyle even if I wanted to 😂 Its not so much trying to recreate the wedding day as it is getting to have some meaningful pictures!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica
I think re-shooting wedding pictures is weird, but I do think getting dressed up in different outfits and having professional pics done right now would be a good idea! That way you can get some meaningful new pictures without having to put your wedding dress back on. I LOVE pictures! I have them all over our house 🙂
Post # 8
Second guessing those wedding day decisions is so hard isn’t it?? I also wish we had done a first look but got talked out of it. So bummed.
I think pp are right, get some gorgeous couple photos! It I would t think of it as a reshoot. Get some 6month anniversary photos (it a year) in a kickass new outfit! Best of luck bee.
Post # 9
Honestly bee, do what makes you happy. If reshooting is what you want, go for it! It’s okay to be with a different photographer or a different location. You could do your hair and makeup exactly the same or different, up to you. There is the option of not having them as wedding photos, you could opt for new outfits and make it a ‘newlywed shoot’.
Consider: what will make you feel better about the situation? In 12 months will you feel the same way? How often do you think you will look at your photos? At the end of the day you don’t actually NEED 500 photos. As fun as it is to have lots, even a handful of nice photos is fine! Just consider whether to extra cost will be worth it in the long run.
Post # 10
cassidyrue : for meaningful photos it’s up to you entirely what you want to wear. Don’t let us talk you in or out of something. Wear wedding clothes, wear normal clothes, there’s even the option of throwing paint at each other or some other trash the dress type shoot. Whatever photos will make you happiest after!
Post # 11
I don’t think you can recapture the day. However, I know a lot of people who have hired photographers on their honeymoon or for Christmas cards. If you want a nice “newlywed” photo I vote you do it. But I think wearing your dress again might not turn out like you want so definitely do an outfit change. As other bees mentioned the magic is gone.
have you thought a “wreck the dress” photo session with you hubby?
Post # 12
Even if you do dress up again and attempt to recreate “wedding” photos, you will always know that they aren’t. You cannot fool yourself into thinking the pictures represent the day you were married, and you will know it everytime you look at those pictures. So I agree with those who say to have a photo shoot of you and Darling Husband, but don’t make it a pretend wedding theme. In a few years, the wedding pictures won’t even matter. They seem SO important now, but after the newness wears off you likely won’t look at them or think about it at all.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2015 - City, State
If you’re not happy with your photos, definitely go for the reshoot!
I did, and honestly, best decision ever! I was not happy with my wedding day photos and it kept bugging me. So a little over a year later, we went for it! I put the dress back on (which was actually too big on me haha!), hired someone to do my hair and makeup (hated my hair on the day of), got a bouquet (yes. My florist completely messed up my bouquet the day of, and I wanted certain pictures of my ring and bouquet) and Darling Husband rented a tux! Dare I saw we both looked so much better than out actual wedding day!
We went to Golden Gate Park and SF City hall, so it was a different feeling. This shoot was much more relaxed and I got every single photo I wanted. During the reshoot, it didn’t feel like my wedding day. I don’t think anything will recreate that feeling, and that’s ok. Just have fun! Bonus: you get to wear your dress again! Why only wear it once?! Plus, I have more reshoot pictures hangin gon my wall than I do wedding day photos!
Post # 14
Thank you bees for the different ideaa! I think that we’ll do another photoshoot regardless, be it in wedding attire or not…I do like the idea of trashing the dress, although the sentimentalist in me pushes back against that idea 😂
I guess I look at the pictures with a bit of frustration, not only because there are only a few of my husband and I, but also because of the amount of drama that took place trying to get those pictures (and I feel that it shows!) There was honestly way too much drama around our wedding. Most of it came from my Mother-In-Law, and in most of our formal pictures I feel like you can see and feel the stress my husband and I were under that day. I guess I also want to be able to look at some pictures of the two of us in our wedding clothes without remembering my Mother-In-Law trying to get the photographer to leave me out of “her family pictures”, or having family members angry because we were trying to take wedding pictures instead of family portraits, that sort of thing. Just some formal pictures to look at without reliving all of that stress and sadness I felt in those moments? If that makes any sense!
Post # 15
cassidyrue : I used to think the redo photos were kind of weird. I mean you’ll never be able to recreate the magic of your wedding day so I never understood why you would need new photos. But then one of my friends did it and they came out fabulous! It poured on her wedding day and they weren’t able to get any photos outside. They did not go back to their venue, but instead took the photos at a very scenic prairie near them. She wore her wedding dress but wore her hair down and casual instead of the updo she had at the wedding. Her husband wore a black suit and button down shirt but did not wear a tie, so the whole feel had a more casual vibe. They also hired a different photographer. They liked them so much they have a few of those photos displayed instead of ones from the wedding (not that they have that many to begin with). No one has really asked why they look different in the new ones.
I say go for it!