(Closed) Wedding photographer etiquette?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I read many websites that recommend looking at photos on pinterest for inspiration and show it to the photographer. My DH’s good friend, a photographer, saw no problem with it. I even gave her my phone so that she doesnt miss my fav poses.

Post # 3
2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I think if you are asking to recreate a style that is offensive to most photographers. With a particular pose, I think it just depends on the sensitivity of the photographer. Your photographer friend seems quite sensitive. I chatted with a potential photographer about capturing certain images and he responded with ‘would you tell your mechanic how to do his job, no, well don’t tell me how to do mine’. Needless to say that I wouldn’t approach this photographer with poses we wanted to try. The photographers that we picked are really laid back and told us that they will take our lead in how serious or silly we want our pictures to be. I would have no problems taking an image to our photographers and asking if they thought it was feasible. So I think it would depend on your friends photographer and the relationship with them.

Post # 4
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t see a problem with asking for a specific pose if that’s what you want. Yes, photography is an art and I have a huge amount of respect for good photographers. At the same time, if you are paying someone a substantial amount of money to photograph your day, the photos aren’t for them or about them/their art/ego – it’s about the bride and groom and providing a service they’re paying for. I wouldn’t hire a photographer if I thought they were so uptight that they would take offense at being asked to take a photo that I wanted. 

Post # 5
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I don’t see a problem with showing them a handful of poses that you’d like to try as long as you don’t try to dictate every shot. At some point you have to trust them to do their job and use their judgment. However, they’re taking hundreds of shots throughout the day and you’re likely paying them a TON of money. You should be able to ask for a few specific poses.

Also, a vast majority of wedding photography isn’t exactly art. Your friend needs to get over herself.

Post # 6
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I think it’s one thing to recreate the PHOTO (pose, lighting, style of photography, the things that make their art their art) vs. recreating the POSE. If you say you want an exact recreation of that photo, it could be offensive. Like others have said, you hired them because you like how they do their job. Let them do it. I can’t imagine a professional photographer getting upset because you requested a couple specific poses, though. 

Post # 7
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You are the client and you’re paying. Of course it’s not offensive to make suggestions or show them poses/photos you like. But if you’ve hired them on their portfolio, you have to understand the poses you suggested may not be within what they consider tasteful/artistic/their signature style or may not be logistically possible due to venue or lighting, so they may have suggestions for alternatives. They shouldn’t be so precious to be offended, but they don’t have to oblige either. Make the suggestions, as suggestions not orders, and see what they say.

Post # 8
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I know my photographer is happy to discuss and try certain poses we’d like to have a go at on our wedding day but I appreciate our photographer’s opinion and sugestions more. I’ve read this article written by a photographer about how pinterest boards and expectations of recreating shots can be more of a hinder to the creative process:


Post # 10
5360 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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eleanormarie:  I created a whole pinterest board for my photographer. She had asked for a list (mostly for family photos but also any other “must haves”) and I asked if a pinterest board was appropriate. I only had like ten on there, so it wasn’t like “I’m telling you what you have to do in every shot”. She was really happy with it and she’s been a wedding photographer for 15+ years. 

Post # 11
48 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ve only had two instances when I was not really offended but slightly put off by a bride asking me to recreate photos for her. One bride had the audacity to tell me she wanted another photographer but she was too expensive so they chose me. She then printed off an entire folder full of photos of that other (and local therefore direct competition of mine) photographer’s work and TOLD me to recreate it. I told her to save up and hire the person she really wanted. In my head I told her to shove off. The second time was a bride who presented me with gorgeous poses by a wooden fence in Wyoming countryside with an eagle soaring overhead. She said she wanted the exact look. Too bad her wedding was middle of Chicago in winter. If you’re reasonable about the poses and they are still along my sort of style it helps me to figure out what your end goal is. I’ll always welcome fresh ideas so long as I get final say. 

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