- 2 months ago
I’ve never posted here before, but I visited a lot during my the planning phase of my wedding. I try to explain this situation to people close to me, but they’re mostly just silent. I’m just so mad about the whole thing that I don’t know if they’re starting to think I’m a bit loopy. I really don’t know what to think, so I’m just posting here to see what other brides might think.
I got married 9 months ago. My husband’s family is from a abroad and I got married in his home city. The photographer I went with is a very well-known, reputable photographer, who had done some work for other relatives. His company did both the photographs and video. To his credit, he did give me the wedding video and all the unedited pictures. He promised to dropbox the edited pics, once finished. Well, fast forward to present day, and I haven’t received any of the 100 edited photographs that were part of my contract 9 months later.
This photographer has a large business and also does commercial shoots. According to him, he employees an in house editor and has quite a few adminsitrative assistants, in addition to 3 or 4 assistant photographers. I had a small wedding, and he showed up with 3 second shooters. If it was a huge wedding, I would understand why he bought this many assistants, but the venue was fairly small and atleast 2/3 of his assitants were unecesary. The end result of this was that his assistants, and his video crew ended up in a lot of the shots. There’s often visible cameramen/video crew in the wedding video too. He was aware of my venue and the room I used as he had shot weddings there before.
After waiting for about 2 months and not receiving the edits as expected, I’ve contacted (called or e-mailed) him over this period of 7 months, may be once a month (I don’t want to seem too pushy). He never does update me, I have to always call him. The first time he forgot the package I chose, the second time he didn’t realize that I sent him the list of photos to be edited (he initially agreed to pick and then asked me to do the selection ,as he was busy). Then he was working on it. Around the 6 month mark he told me that the editor had it and would return it in a week. I called back 3 weeks later (thought I needed to give him time) only to be told that the editor didn’t do a good enough job and he would be re-editing it starting June 1st. It’s been a little over 2 months, and not a word, and still no pictures. I know (from reading this forum!) that 2 – 3 months is a standard editing time, and definitely I think should be doable for 100 pics only.
I have seen that the girl who helped co-ordinate my wedding got married abot three months ago and she already has her edited pics (we’re friends on FB) and she went with different, but also reputable photographer (I tried to hire them for my wedding, but they were not available!). So, I don’t think that the turn around time is that different in my husband’s home town. He also posts edited pics of his recent weddings to his instagram routinely. I feel that…. may be our potrait sessions were quite rushed and he did complain about the venue not having any good places to shoot (he took us to a nearby park instead), and perhaps it’s not his best work, so maybe he’s unineterested in having my stuff edited. I don’t care about any of that… I’m fine wit the pics actually though they’re not the spectacular pics that every bride kind of wishes for. Given the time crunch we had, I understand why that couldn’t happen. The pics, imo are nice enough, but because they are not edited they are not representative of what was on his social media (they are not bright/look a little dull in terms of color and some have funny angles or visible tools from maintenance occurring around the venue.
My family keeps saying that I’ll get the pictures, and/or that I don’t need the edited pictures. And act like it’s not a big deal and like I’m overreacting (as I have been quite angry at times). But, it sort of is a big deal to me. I know it could be worst, as some brides in this situation have not been given any of their pictures. But, I still feel disappointed. I love photographs, and would have loved to have some bright edited pics to make an album here. But, now I just feel like not even looking at the pics anymore. I’m so angry and tired of havign to constantly contact this guy and just get (what I feel like) is a runaround.
Do you ladies think that I’m over-reacting? Do you think there might be even a small chance he might return the pics to me after this long, or should I just consider this a write-off?