(Closed) Wedding Photographer Regret

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
4035 posts
Honey bee

@EmilyBea:  A photographer’s style is their style. That’s why you should pick a photog in your price range with a style you like. While you can ask for a few kinds of photos, you should NOT ask for them to change their style. 

You can talk with her more about natural shots rather than posed, but her overall style is not something that will change.

Did you sign a contract? Did you read it? Is there anyway of getting out of it without losing too much? 

Post # 5
12003 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

i think you can find a blend of the posed and relaxed shots – although I’m not 100% sure what you mean.  You can still line everyone up and ‘pose’ but instead of all smiling at the camera have everyone launging, chatting, etc.  A lot of those casual and relaxed images you see are really actually pretty posed.  Talk to her and see what she says.  Look at her photos and pick the ones you like the best that are closest to what you’re looking for.  I would be worried about the 33 weeks pregnant part and ask her if she has a backup for you if she goes early, is on best rest or any of the other number of things that can happen with pregnant ladies

Post # 6
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our photog did mostly relaxed stuff, and I was very pleased when that meant that he’d stick us somewhere, and just took pictures while we talked/kissed/whatever.

It involved a lot of posing! So I think you’ll like the results!

Post # 7
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would hold a meeting with your photographer and show her pictures that you like from other photographers. Tell her you like those kinds of candid relaxed shots, and ask her if she can accomplish you have shown her.


I wouldn’t ask her to change her style or say anything negative about her work that you’ve seen already. Just show her what you like and pray to God she says, “Of course!”

Post # 8
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@EmilyBea:  Please avoid advice that tells you to take images of a different style to your photographer and ask if they can replicate it. Photographers really hate that and it makes us feel like you don’t have confidence in us. Aside from that, they just aren’t going to do a good job trying to shoot in someone else’s style. For example, I was a photojournalist before I was a wedding photographer. So if someone came to me with one of those photos from Pinterest of a bride and groom standing next to each other, looking away from each other with a serious look on their face against a dramatic sunset I just . . . I wouldn’t be able to do that photo. Sure I COULD take it but it doesn’t make any sense to me as someone who is looking for authentic emotion and interaction to take a highly stylized, staged portrait of people looking grumpy on their wedding day and I am sure vice versa for photographers who mainly excel in posed portraiture. Aside from that, it is MUCH harder to teach a pose-heavy photographer how to see and capture authentic emotional moments than it is to teach a moments-heavy photographer how to do posed portraiture. It sounds like you may have booked a more traditional photographer than you really want.

IF there is any way to get out of it and find someone new I would. There was just someone on the bee a few weeks ago who had been having doubts and worries about their photographer throughout the months before the wedding and, as we all suspected, was really upset with her images when she got them. She watched her photographer like a hawk the day-of and was upset and worried before she ever saw the photos. This kind of thing can just build and build to the point that no matter what the photographer delivers to you you may not be happy because you were wishing inside that you had hired someone else. It’s not fair to you or the photographer.

Where are you located? I can see if I can recommend someone for you/help you find someone new. Also I am pretty surprised that your photographer didn’t let you know about the pregnancy much sooner so that if you were concerned about that you could have had more time to weigh your options. Obviously pregnant photographers do a fine job but it seems like an important bit of information to share when she will be that far into her third trimester at your wedding.

Post # 9
2087 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree that their style is their style in terms of editing, lighting, how they prefer to shoot with light and equipment etc. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling your photographer that you would like to keep the posed shots to a minimum and have them be more photo-journalistic. However, a lot of photographers who have a more photo journalistic style are still quite posed – just not the typical, everyone standing in a row and say cheese kind of pose.

Voice your wants to your photographer. You hired them for a reason, it’s normal as we get closer and closer to the day to second guess our decisions.

I personally had a photographer booked last year, and just before I signed the contract, I wrote about my second guessing here on the bee – and someone emailed her that link and she threw a fit and said she was cancelling us before we could cancel her (even tho I didn’t plan to cancel her, just wanted reassurance). So far, every big decision I’ve made, I’ve had moments of regret and in time remember that they’re awesome and I made a good choice. It’s just scary committing to something for our big day because we only get ONE!

Post # 10
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m a photographer so I can tell you that brides almost always supply me with photos they found online of the styles and techniques they like. I try my best to work in the general capacity of what was shown to me, but I cannot completely reverse my technique and change the way I shoot. I do tend to shoot in a more candid, photojournalistic style because I cannot stand overly posed photos and ONLY do them when they are requested and I have to. Nothing is better than capturing a bride on her day as if she doesn’t know the camera is there. If your photographer keeps telling you to pose, the best advice I can give you is to say, “No, please just shoot candid.” They should understand what you want. Also, don’t be shy in telling your photographer to take lots of macro shots of details. We spend so much time and money on the details, flowers, jewelry, shoes, candy bars, escort cards and everything else under the sun and you definitely want all of that work captured!

Just keep calm and marry on. The more relaxed you are and IGNORE all of the photo equipment, the more natural and beautiful your photos will be. Have a great time!! 🙂

Post # 11
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@EmilyBea:  I’m curious to find out, what did you end up doing?  I went through the very exact same thing as you.   

We did EXTENSIVE research (prob looked up ~75+) and all our dream photographers were out of our budget (start at ~$10K+) and the photographers we loved that were within our budget were already booked.  I started to panic since we were less than 5 months away from the wedding so we ended up booking a photographer A who was clearly talented and did “nice” work.  We paid the $1K deposit to reserve the date and proceeded to do our e-session 1 month before our wedding (I had broken my foot and couldn’t really walk up til then – nightmare!!).  Over the 4 months leading up to our esession, I continued to look back at another photographer’s (B) blog.  She fell into the LOVELOVELOVE category but still out of our budget.   I just couldn’t stop stalking her blog, her work was so beautiful and her style so timeless.  We received our engagement photos 2 weeks later from A and we liked them, but didn’t LOVE them.  Long story short, I contacted photographer B and she still happened to be available 2 weeks prior to our wedding which I felt was a sign since she’s VERY high in demand.  I went back and forth, sought out advice from the hive and ended up breaking up with photographer A and losing the $1K.  It was a super hard decision for me especially since A is very sweet and I’m non confrontational.  Photographer B was SO wonderful, way more attentive and responsive over email than A.  B was $7K which was WAY out of our planned budget but 4 months after our wedding, we have NO regrets.  Our pictures are AMAZING and we LOVE them.  The colors are so natural, her use of natural light and we have a good mix of posed and candid shots.  The posed ones even look candid and natural.  

I’m thrilled to share that our wedding will also be featured on Style Me Pretty early next year. Yay!

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