Post # 1
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Busy Beekeeper
So… I haven’t posted any wedding pictures on facebook. From time to time, I want to post an album… but for some reason, I stop and don’t do it.
I’m not a FB user that posts tons of pictures or updates all the time…. and I love stalking friend’s pictures – let alone wedding pictures.
I guess part of me feels that the wedding was this incredibly intimate occasion and it would be strange for ‘FB friends’ to be privy to that. On the other hand, why wouldn’t I put together a small album of pictures and share those…
I’m feeling conflicted and wondering if anyone else is in a similar boat.
Thoughts?
Post # 3
Hostess
11279 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@oracle: By the sounds of it you feel and use FB in the same way I do. I don’t particularyl want people to post pictures of our wedding on FB, although I look at friends of friends pics.
Post # 4
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5106 posts
Bee Keeper
@oracle: I don’t have any wedding photos to display yet, but I have felt hesitation as to posting other pictures. But in the end, I always post at least a few. I want people to see some of the important aspects of our lives. And every once in awhile I’ll go through the list of my “friends” who I never speak to on FB and do a little spring cleaning 🙂
I think in the end I’ll probably post some, but not too many, and not the ones I feel REALLY special about.
Post # 5
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
You can limit each album as to who exactly you want to view the pictures. Only a very select group of people can see my tagged pictures and some of my albums. Just put some up and change your privacy settings!
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
You can make the album and put it as Friends only. that’s what I do.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
I agree with PP’s, you can put them on there and just limit the people who can see them =)
Post # 8
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Newbee
We had an incredibly intimate wedding. Me, my husband, two witnesses and our photgrapher. Later that evening we met some friends for drinks at a lounge.
We didn’t announce our engagement on FB (though I got called out on my ring…so people knew) and didn’t post any details about the wedding until that weekend. It was actually fun to share it at that point, knowing that people that care about us and our happiness could share in seeing what our day was like, even though we chose to keep our wedding simple and small.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
I just put a “best of” album on Facebook. Our photographer gave us the CD with thosands of images! Obviously people didn’t need to see all of them. I also limited who was able to look at it. I didn’t want total strangers stalking my FB!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
We had so much family drama (specifically people who chose not to attend or were angry about our decision to exclude children) that I too did not put up photos right away. When I did, I posted 17 pictures. And guess what? People defintely did stalk me over them – in one, my nephew (one fo few children there) was seen and we were confronted by my new aunt in law about playing favorites for what felt like the millionth time.
I understand you choice not to post many. I would say set up a private Flickr account and send the info to select folks via email. That way it isn’t connect to Facebook but folks can still see items online.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@yearns4god: While it is true you can set them to friends only, I actually had someone (who during the invite process un-friended me on Facbook) have another friend of mine pull the pics up on her account. So yeah, your ‘friends only’ have access, but its not like the can’t copy/paste them or open their account for others to see the shots.
I think it really depends on how private you want them to be. Facebook photos jsut really bit me in the arse after the fact. I wished I had never posted them.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
It sounds like we have similar facebook usage. I don’t regularly post photos, rarely update my status, and don’t even really write on others walls. My plan is to post an album with 20 or so pictures from the day. People who weren’t invited don’t need to see every little detail that went into our wedding. I am totally one of those people who stalks photos and I’m sure almost everyone is. I know all my old sorority sisters will want to see photos but I will choose the few they get to see.
I had a friend who just got married and posted like 6 albums of 200 photos each and I thought it was a little strange.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
I’m not a big picture poster on facebook either, but I did do a wedding album. So many people asked for it (b/c it was a small, intimate wedding they couldn’t be there), so I just went ahead and put it up.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
I am very active on FB but I am very selective over what pictures I put up and who has access to them.
I have certain friends only allowed albums, Immediate family only allowed albums as well as albums only I can see.
You get the picture, just tweak the settings so that you can share with just the specific people you want.
Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
@panterapeach: That’s how I am too with FB. I have dozens of “lists” set up and my privacy settings are all totally custom, hahaha. I hate when they lump anything together in the privacy settings. 🙂
You can control privacy just person to person though as well. My photographer actually used FB to let us proof our album pages – she made an album that only my husband and I could see. It worked out great!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
My photographer posted some of our photos on facebook right away (so we could see them on our honeymoon) so those are on there, plus I have some as profile pictures, but I haven’t yet made an actual album for them. Not because I’m opposed to it but just because I haven’t gotten around to it. Maybe for an anniversary….
I loved celebrating my wedding with family and friends so I don’t mind sharing pictures, though
