(Closed) Wedding Picnic, Then Ceremony, then Dessert Reception???

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is this a good idea?
    Great idea! Be clear with your wording on the invites! : (13 votes)
    59 %
    The timing won't work (please provide alternate timing suggestions) : (8 votes)
    36 %
    I'd be insulted as an out of town guest. : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I like the idea but why dont you make your ceremony first then have a picnic and desserts after that? It seems a bit backwards to have the food and games before you actually get married. Also people might get hungry in between the picnic and the reception and they wont have any option but to eat a bunch of sweets after to fill themselves up. Just a suggestion!

    Post # 5
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    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We are doing something similar in reverser order, (Ceremony, picnic, desserts)

    I think you timing might work, but my concern would be the getting ready time.

    1. If you are not wearing your dresses to the picnic (which I assume you woudln’t) are you/ your bridal party going to have enough time to get ready (hair, dresses, shoes, getting ready pictures) Between the 5:30 and 6:15 time slot? keep in mind it takes longer than you think , and plan at least an extra half an hour becuase you knwo somehting is going to go wrong that will need extra attention.

    2. Timing… I think your timing might be a little off for people who are on set eating schedules. (elders, young children, pregnant women, diabetics etc) if you don’t have any of them invited you might not have to worry about it, but 3:30 is a little late for lunch and way early for dinner for some folks, if you have them there until 9:00 are they going to be starving?

    3. The concept of food and celebration is… just that… to celebrate what just happened. Now I personally am not one for tradition, and have done a bit of tradition smashing recently so I think if you love this order then go for it and I as a guest would just bring my own sandwitch for after the ceremony, but it seems strange to eat, drink, and be merry with your guests if you have not done anything to celebrate yet… i.e. get married.

    Timing suggestion:

    Whenever-3:30 Punch and snacks for guests at church, desserts, or maybe just lawn games to keep them occupied, party gets ready,

    3:45-4:45 Ceremony and all that jazz as fancy as you want to make it

    5:00-6:00 mass migration to park, bridal party pictures, people start the grills and get the picnic ready, you and party arrive to a meal waiting for you and happy guests playing lawn games while they wait

    6:15 Eating, laughing, dancing (only if you want to) and all the rest of the ‘celebration’ things that go with after weddings

     

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    and I TOTALLY forgot, Hey welcome! and congrats on your first post! Woohoo!

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I agree.  The ceremony should be first.

    Another thing to consider is the park and the venue.  I’d dress comfortably and casually to attend a picnic. What is your venue like? Will picnicwear be appropriate at your venue?

     

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee

    taking in to account what you have expanded on i think it would be okay to have cake punch desserts at the butterfly garden after the ceremony, but I would make sure it says very explicitly on your invitations that you will not be providing dinner. Also if I were you I would try my hardest not to get offended if all of your guests got hungry around 7 and had to leave. That would be aweful, but it is something that might be expected with that kind of timing. I don’t mean to take over your thread btw, we are just doing something very similar so I am interested in what you decide.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee

    Caterers are expensive, I will give you that one. Have you thought about snacks at the church and then doing h’ordervs and desserts and punch? that might give people something more to much on without it being as $$$ as a full sit down meal. (I am sure you have already thought of that, just thought i would bring it up) I would just hate for your guests to have to leave due to hunger

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

    I’m confused – so you and the wedding party won’t actually be attending the picnic? You said your groom doesn’t want to see you walk down the aisle.. if that’s the case I would find it extremely odd as a guest to be at a picnic without the bride and groom..

    Post # 15
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    1935 posts
    Buzzing bee

    ohh I missed a post – you’re not wearing your wedding dress to the picnic… I donno, since your wedding ceremony is so late, I would just stick to the dessert reception and maybe offer some platters of late night snack if people get hungry.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just like pp have said, the ceremony really needs to come first.. and then the picnic could be after.

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