(Closed) Wedding Pictures Are Beautiful- But I Hate My Face!

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
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Bumble bee

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lattefairy :  Hi Bee. I didn’t see the link. I am sure I understand how you feel though. I’ve noticed in other people’s wedding picutres, even gorgeous girls sometimes don’t look like themselves. The angle on the face, make up, or everything esle. I think one of the problems with bridal photogrpahy is that there are so many elemements like light, background, silhouette, gown, decor, bodies, so many things that are often perfect/gorgeous/stunning that it is easy for many people to get caught up in a “gorgeous picture” when the Bride herself might not look like her best self. When some of my friends post their wedding pix online I sometimes think “Wow these pictures are stunning… but that doesn’t quite look like Shannon, I’ve seen her look better…” 

Some people just aren’t paying attention to the same details you would. The photographers can’t look at their footage and only focus on your face, their job and easthetics work differently than your inner critic. They also don’t know your face as well as you do and what is its best. So try not to take it personally that people are ooooohing and ahhhing over a picture that you’re not particuarly keen on. They can’t help it, I’m sure there is much to ohh and ahh over. As you said, the photography is beautiful. 

So my advice is

A) Know that you’re not wrong for how you feel, your feelings are valid

B)Definiltey pick the ones you like best to hang/post/album. Defintiley focus on the great photos. With modern digital photography we have WAY more than we “need”. I have maybe 5 framed around the house and that still feels like a lot. I do have an album sitting on the mantel (That nobody looks at but me!), but that isn’t necessary to make an album if you don’t want.

C)Discuss with your photogprahher. A good photographer wants to make you happy. The truth is they have more phogotraphs they didn’t give you, and there might be some that you like better in there. If you can be very specific with your concerns you might be able to get some more photos he/she has. For example, I am highly emotional about my mother who is terminally ill, so my photographers went back and gave me every single photo she was in whether it was bad or not (unedited) and so now I know that there are no photos of her on the “cutting room floor” from my wedding. When they gave me those I noticed that in one family portrait where a cousin’s eyes were closed, there was another shot of the exact pose her eyes open. I printed and framed and sent it to my family members, this great shot I didn’t previously have.

Don’t be afraid to talk candidly to your photogrpaher. I had a different issue with my photography which wasn’t my photographers fault, my dress wasn’t fitting me properly. For a good two weeks I wanted to cry every time I saw my wedding photos. I had a long and helpful conversation with my photographer who is an angel and she helped a lot, they even retouched several to take away fabric bulges and fabric gaps that shouldnt have been there. If your photogrpaher has great customer service and an understanding of your issue, he /she maybe able to help in some way. 

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