I think wedding planners are an incredible asset, even if you consider yourself an extremely laid back bride. Having a GOOD planner allows you, your family, and your bridal party to relax in the weeks leading up to the wedding day and in particular on the wedding day. You’re spending quite a bit of money on your wedding, so why not spend a little extra to reduce your stress (and trust me, you WILL get stressed out about you wedding) and actually be able to truly relax and enjoy the day? You really don’t realize how much work goes into planning a wedding until you’re in the thick of it, and ideally a planner helps you stay organized, on schedule, and thinks of things that would never occur to you. Every wedding I’ve been to as an adult has had a wedding planner, and my best friend who is also planning a wedding has one too. Plus, I have never met anyone who regretted having a wedding planner 🙂
All the above being said, if you’re busy, very Type A, or both you absolutely NEED a wedding planner. Trust me! But please, please, please do your reasearch and don’t expect your planner to do everything for you; some things can only be done/are best done by the bride or groom.
I’m both very busy (worked two jobs, fiance was deployed 90% of the time, and started grad school & still worked one job for the last bit of it) and Type A, so hiring a weddig planner was the FIRST thing I did. I knew if I didn’t have one I would literally have died of stress, and I really wanted to enjoy wedding plannig and be relaxed, happy, and calm in the weeks leading up to the wedding. I also wanted myself and all my friends and family to be stress-free the day of the wedding.
About my experience so far (I get married in 7 days!). I live in NC and I paid about $2k for my full service wedding planner because she had recetnly started her wedding planning business (she had event planning experience prior to starting up on her own); $2K is definitely a significant part of my budget, but the decision to hire a planner was an investment in my mental health/sanity. I did A LOT of reserach (read reviews) and met with multiple wedding planners before choosing one. At the beginning of the planning process I was 100% pleased with my planner, but my fiance was never impressed with her. He thought it was her job to help us bring down the cost of the wedding as much as possible and she kind of never has; To her credit, I have always been extremely clear about what I want and it’s just hard/impossible to give me what I want and expect in a wedding for cheap. Now that I’m 7 days from my wedding I am not as over the moon about her….while I still think I’m getting my money’s worth, I think she’ll really earn her money the day of the wedding. The last few weeks have been extremely stressful for me, and the things I’ve had to do have been very time consuming (and I don’t have time to deal with them but I have had to). There are also certain very important things she overlooked (in my opinion) or didn’t warn me about that caused me a lot of stress because I had to find solutions to them myself, and it often cost me more $. I’m not going to get into details because it would be a novel. If I had to do it again I might have ponied up a little more for a more expensive planner…Although I cannot be entirely sure, I suspect some of the things that my planner overlooked, didn’t warn me about, and didn’t help me with are things that more experienced and expensive planners would caught/warned me about/and done.
Ultimately, I can’t imagine my wedding planning process without my planner even if she isn’t perfect. Did having a full service planner make the process stress free? NO WAY. Did it help me stay organized? Yes. Has she helped reduce stress in the weeks leading up to the wedding? No…besides offering encouraging words. Will I feel completely relaxed on my wedding day? YES <—-and THAT is the most important thing to me.
Hope that helps 🙂