(Closed) Wedding planner kickbacks?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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lovelybride22:  If you really suspect this, I’d probably call the vendor and ask for a quote – make up a name and wedding date. If it’s surprisingly lower, I would ask her. Say a friend of yours is using them too and got a way lower quote. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Try asking her why she’s recommending these people, and privately ask the vendors why the price you’re being quoted is higher than the price on their websites. That might get you the answer. If not, ask your coordinator straight up if she gets a commission off of certain people– you have the right to know!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

In my planner’s contract, it specifically calls out that she doesn’t receive kickbacks. Does your contract say anything? Also, do you pay the vendors through her or directly to them? I’m paying my vendors directly so there’s no way for her to receive a kickback unless the vendors were to pay her directly.

When she pushes a vendor, I’d ask for specifics on why she likes them.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Oh no… what a bad feeling to have about your planner. I feel like if you just come out and ask either the vendor or her, they have every reason not to tell you the truth because they are doing such a bad and duplicitous thing. The “made up quote” idea does not sit quite right with me either, though. This might be more trouble than you’re willing to go to, but you could try calling vendors in the same price bracket and seeing what they charge. This probably isn’t going to help much if it’s a referral charge of a couple hundred bucks, because I imagine prices will fluctuate by that much even among vendors in the same bracket, but if every other vendor in your range is charging say in the range of $5k and the ones your planner is recommending are charging $7-8k, it will be easy to pin down what’s going on.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

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lovelybride22:  one of the things that convinced me to hire my planner was because she could help me stay within my budget. she could negotiate with vendors better than me, and pass the savings on to me. I was under the impression that that’s one of the main reasons why people hire them. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Nazareth Hall

I work as an event designer and planner and we do receive “kickbacks” so to speak from certain vendors. Some like to pay in cash, others like to exchange services. My videographer at my wedding was free from referrals my Mother-In-Law gave to them. She wanted no cash, just for her kids to have nice wedding videos. That being said, I have never, nor do I know of anyone who will raise their prices to cover a kickback. We do them because we are grateful for the business being brought to us that we may not have had otherwise.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lovelybride22:  omg thats so sketchy!! Good for you for following your gut, you just saved yourself 20% 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Just talk to her honestly :).  The house I chose, starlight tent beach style night wedding only had one venue in the city I am having mine. It just happend that my wedding planner has comission from them. I knew this before signing the contract because it was listed on their offical page and like other bees suggested, ask for a quota from the venue. Mine costed 1200 to hire orginally because she is the company founder, but she only charged me 8500 if I chose to have it there. She offered automatically but I would have asked if she didn’t. Don’t be scared ! in my case we saved almost 4 grand. 

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