Post # 1
I hired a wedding planner to help me plan my out of town wedding (I’m in Kentucky, getting married in NC) and chose her “unlimited option” but recently I haven’t heard anything from her about anything. I know that she and her family have been down with the flu, so I’ve been trying to be understanding, but when I don’t hear from her for weeks at a time I get nervous! The wedding is in 2.5 months and I still don’t have anything to decorate the venue with, I have no florist, and I haven’t gotten to talk to my photographer for over a month. She (the WP) has requested that all vendor communications go through her, which I understand somewhat, but it’s getting very frustrating!!! My mother keeps saying not to worry about it because apparently I’m ahead of schedule, but I’m in the middle of grad school and opening an opera next week so I don’t feel particularly comfortable with where things are. Can I get a second opinion???
Post # 3
I can imagine with the flu she’s not very productive but there are some things she can do over the phone or my email that require very little strength so that would make me nervous too. And, being sick shouldn’t mean she can’t communicate with you at all, I’d want to be kept abreast of everything, even if there’s nothing to do, I wanna know that. Maybe just shoot her an email and tell her your concerns. I think she’ll understand. And maybe ask if its alright that you contact the vendors directly if need be, but be sure to let her know of everything discussed if you do. Having a wedding planner is tough because its helpful but you give up the control.
Post # 4
I’d call/email the Wedding Party and tell her you are getting to wedding crunch time and you really want to touch base and figure out what will be done and when. Then ask about the specific things you are concerned about. Good luck!
Post # 5
I don’t think there would be anything wrong with contacting her to find out what’s up. Being a wedding planner, she would be used to bride planning anxiety. It’s odd that a family flu would cause her to lose contact with you for weeks at a time though – did I misunderstand that part?
Post # 6
I sent her an e-mail explaining my panicked feelings, and apparently she hadn’t contacted me because she felt we were so far ahead! Now that she understands that I’m panicking because I’m not there, she has been much better about e-mailing me about the little things. Thanks bees!
Post # 7
Oooh! I’m in a similar situation. Also in Kentucky, wedding in Texas. My Mom finally chased down the Wedding Party to meet with us while I’m home next week. This Wedding Party did my sister’s wedding so I’m super confident in her abilities but it’s really hard to trust her when you can’t see the progress. My suggestion would be to hassle her into getting you a proposal or something. Perhaps a contract soon?
Post # 8
Glad you finally got to contact her and everything’s worked out! The stress of worrying about how someone else is handling it is exactly why I’m just doing a DOC!