Post # 1
Okay, so I am planning a weekend/U.S. destination wedding for a place that is about 5 hours from my house. My budget is at $16500 right now, without dress, rings, or honeymoon. That does include a bbq rehearsal dinner/welcoming party.
I have $1000 budgeted for the services of a planner. I found one I LOVE. Her vision has basically reshaped our plans and brought them to a whole new level. In order to get her full package, she will cost $2000. So, big splurge! I honestly don’t know if I could get help any cheaper, but I’m frankly not sure I want anyone else.
Am I crazy to splurge like this? I’m splitting the cost with my parents, so it isn’t play money (kidding). I also work 70 hours a week as a new attorney.
The other alternative is to pare down her services…no set-up, or no clean-up, or doesn’t handle guest accomodations, etc. My guess is I could save $500 that way. And I’ve always thought of myself as frugal and DIY, so it is really against my nature. However…it would be so nice to only have to think about the fun stuff (colors, flowers, etc.)
Honest feedback appreciated.
Post # 3
In all the posts where people have mentioned the things that were the most valuable to spend money on, the wedding planner or DOC is one that seems to crop up on everybody’s list. If you are working 70 hours per week, I would almost consider it to be a necessity, and if you like this woman that much then I think it is fair to use her. You can budget somewhere else–maybe take a shorter honeymoon or lower the dress budget or use cheaper flowers?
Post # 4
definitely don’t scrimp on the set up or clean up, trust me that is the most valuable part of her package imho!!! i would definitely go with her on that and ask her where you can cut costs. a great planner will definitely know areas where you can cut costs and those areas won’t affect the look of your wedding day.
Post # 5
I’d say with your budget, if you can negotiate it to about $1500 it would be reasonable….but as crebre said, don’t negate setup and cleanup if planning services are important to you =)
Post # 6
I dont think its crazy. You are allowed to decide whats important to you and where you want to spend money for your wedding. I hired a wedding planner and she has been so helpful! Shes technically only supposed to be a month of planner, but shes been helping from day one of our wedding planning. At the beginning I didnt think I wanted a planner since I love to come up with ideas and plan, but its a lot of help. Shes been through the process so many times so she has a lot of connections and ideas. She was ablet to get us an amazing deal with a well known videographer because he is a friend.
Post # 7
My budget is less than yours and I have a wedding planner. She offered me day of or full service. I took full service and my wedding and reception are local. In my opinion, if you can afford it, get a planner. It will save you a lot of headache and stress. $2,000 for a full service semi-destination wedding is a steal.
Post # 8
Whatever you do- don’t cut out the set-up and tear-down to save money. To me, those are the most important things you need to hire someone to do.
Post # 9
I rationalized things this way…how long would it take me to do what she is doing? And factor in you’ll probably take longer since you don’t have the experience and connections she does for planning weddings. Then think about the cost of your vacation days to plan (even if your salaried, you won’t have that day to use in the future). It’s worth it at least for me to have someone plan and “just show up” nearly.
Post # 10
I think you should go for it. I went way overboard when we first started planning and assumed I wouldn’t need any help… wrong. I’d love to have someone else to give the tasks I don’t want do (or want my family and friends to do either). Whether it be, play the bad cop if needed, give the final payments, make sure the deliveries arrive on time and set up properly. Too bad I don’t have the dinero anymore! I have always heard that brides really value the assistance a GOOD wedding planner provides. So if you can manage it, do it!
Post # 11
1) Can you afford it?
2) What is clean-up, set-up, etc. worth to you?
Frankly, clean-up and set-up alone would be worth $500 to me, but that’s me 🙂
Post # 12
I would try to save somewhere else, or negotiate with her. Explain your situation, and maybe she’ll work with you,
Post # 13
I appreciate the help, all. After talking to Fiance, I’m going to go for it, but ask her to do a couple of extra things (after the reception, during clean-up, set up for the Sunday brunch and help me find activities and lodging for guests). I’m having a strolling reception with a lounge feel, so I at least know she won’t be making seating charts and setting tables, so I don’t feel bad asking her to 1) do something I would like to sleep through, and 2) do something that will take her 2 hours, and me 20.
Post # 14
I think you should go for it. A good planner can help you save in other areas. With you working 70 hours a week, I think of it as a necessity, not an optional thing. You need the help!