Wedding Planner Vendor: Can't stand

posted 3 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

Well a couple of decisions to make here. Is she valuable to you outside of the couple  bad vendors? Im sure she’s used to clients doing SOME of their own research even if she’s working for them. If you like her overall, a simple email saying “hey Susie, we’ve trialed a few hairstylists now, and the one I like best is A&Bs hair so we’ll be booking them for the day of”. She won’t be at all surprised you did some of your own research, almost no client leaves it 100% to a planner. Just be casual about it, no need to describe why you disliked her first pick.

On the other hand if you don’t want her as a planner at all anymore you’ve got another issue to tackle.

Post # 3
657 posts
Busy bee

She literally works for you. If she’s not doing her job, fire her. If she’s not doing it right, tell her she needs to change it. 

She’s not a visionary artist you can’t contradict. She’s an employee of yours, and she needs to deliver what you want. 

Post # 4
2506 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I went through 2 wedding planners before finding one I loved and stuck with. She recommended a hairstylist who was good, but too far away. I contacted the hairstylist and my planner (individually) and let them know I went with someone else. You only owe the vendors the common courtesy of letting them know you went with someone, nothing more. You don’t owe your planner referral business. It’s your wedding, you are paying these people to execute your ideas. If they aren’t doing that, go with someone else.

Post # 5
1173 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Completely agree with PP. You are paying her. If she’s not doing work you’re happy with, fire her. And even if you want to keep her you aren’t obliged to accept her suggestions. It’s your day.

Post # 6
1400 posts
Bumble bee

you didn’t sign a contract so tell the bakery you changed your mind, legally you’re ok not using the bakery or the stylists. And NO you don’t pay them anything! Stop being so non-confrontational, you’re an adult now. Start saying NO!

fire the planner

Post # 8
48 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

The only people you need to worry about pleasing are you and your partner.  I, for one, find it shady that these vendors don’t want to sign a contract until right before your wedding…  Most of my vendors were booked at least 6 months in advance.  Contracts protect you… your risk is greater because you have way more to lose financially/emotionally if these vendors decide to deviate from the oral agreement or bail just before the wedding.  The lawyer in me is strongly advising you to go with someone else and sign contracts ASAP. 

Post # 9
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

What is more important to you: that your planner and vendors are satisfied or that you and your guests are happy? If you keep thinking of the planner’s and vendors’ feelings, the result will come at the expense of yours. It’s that simple.

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