Post # 1
So I just want someone else to weigh in on this – I’m not entirely sure on expectations for my wedding planner.
She’s amazing, she responds to most of my emails and texts super quick and always takes the time to work things out if I feel stressed. She knows the vendors and is super organized. But there are a couple things bothering me – tell me what you think? Should I be concerned or are they not her job or what?
-the budget – since mentioning it at the beginning I’ve never seen a spreadsheet of expenses updated – I keep my own but there are a couple vendors she’s coordinated and I don’t know the final costs
-she went on vacation this week and didn’t tell me until the moment she was leaving – she’s super far away so I don’t really want to call if its a family vacation or something
-because she’s away I contacted my florist to get some mock ups done and talk about the flowers – well I now find out everything’s ordered and organized… I only met with the florist once at an inital consultation so I really am not sure what I’m getting – I’ve brought this up in the past and was told the florist has “a vision” and its not like other industries – do I just trust in this or what? The company is extremely professional and well known so I’m not getting ripped off – I’m just out of the loop.
Stop stressing or address it as soon as possible? She’s a really amazing person… I’m just feeling a bit concerned as its the 2 month mark.
Post # 3
This would make me bonkers! I don’t see any issue with just wanting to check in with her. Soot her an email, asking for a spreadsheet info budget info thus far. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make sure you’re still on track. As far as the flowers go, I’d address that while you very much appreciate her help, you’d like final say on the ‘vision’ prior to booking decorative items. Can she provide further info?
Post # 4
Exactly what PP said, but wait until after she comes back from vacation to bother your planner with emails. You don’t want to become “one of those brides”. At the 2 month mark you still have plenty of time to work out all the kinks, if any come up, so don’t stress out over it just yet.
Post # 5
The answer to this all depends on the extent of planning you hired her for. If she is in charge of full planning and coordination, she is on the ball. If she is only hired for partial planning, she has overstepped her bounds. I hope that since she knows your budget, she is being mindful of it and that you are reporting anything you spend (or plan to spend) to her. However, I felt it was very important to get a spreadsheet from mine and asked a few times during the interview and after. I really don’t think it is a big deal that she is on vacation 2 months before your wedding. 2 weeks? Then I would be upset.
Just remember, she is working for you, if you need info or want to make changes, ask for them. If she cares at all about her business she will bend over backwards to make sure you are happy.
Post # 6
Ugh, I’ve been having issues with my wedding planner too. She is super sweet and has amazing taste and was highly recommended, but she is not good about responding to emails or messages! I kind of regret hiring a planner, but what’s done is done and I would have needed someone for day-of anyway and the price difference wasn’t huge.
Anyway, I feel your pain!! You need to tell her that you appreciate that she’s handling things, but you need to know about them!