(Closed) Wedding Planner-yes or no?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

 YES YES YES! Hire a wedding planner! Mine is completely saving my sanity and she is WELL WORTH the expense! She keeps us on budget, knows plenty of people in the industry, and does all the things I don’t want to do/don’t have time to do. I also feel better knowing that vendors want to make a good impression on her as well as on us so they’ll do a great job. I’m almost never stressed about wedding planning and I can just enjoy it. 🙂

Post # 3
3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

As an ex wedding planner, it’s largely a waste of money in my opinion.  I saw that because it’s 90% convenience that you’re paying for and it’s really not that hard for most people to do it themselves, if they have the time and desire to. The brides who hired me basically didn’t WANT to plan their own wedding, or lived out of the area and wanted a single person to meet with all the vendors and things in advance. 

I do however strongly recommend a professional day-of event coordiantor (and don’t always trust it when one comes with your venue!) because having a single person who’s not emotionally involved in anything (and therefore wont care about missing important moments/memories) is a huge help to keep both bride and groom stress-free on the wedding day.  Make sure it’s someone who listens to your entire concepts and understands what your priorities are.  One thing I’d always remind my brides of, when it comes to “pre-packaged” coordinators that come with a venue, the thing to remember is that they work for the venue, not you, which means that is where their priorities are going to be.  


For example at my own wedding venue, a bed and breakfast, I had the “event corrdinator” come up to me (the bride!!!) and tell me that I needed to “quiet down” because I was standing outside my room/cottage and talking to a bridesmaid near an open window of the main house, and she was concerned I would distrub the other guests.  Mind you, I wasn’t shouting, or anything, just talking in a normal voice at like 8:30am.  She also tried to tell the groom that the music people couldn’t sound-check or anything else in the garden (our ceremony location) until the guests had all checked out (checkout time was 11am) for the wedding with the 11:30 start time.  

Now, we had a particularly frustrating experience because the B&B changed owners from when we originally signed our contract with them, and the new owners didn’t know if they wanted to keep doing weddings/events, so the coordinator was basically “auditioning” for her job and didn’t really care about making us happy, just the new owners.  So, ultimately, we ended up ignoring her and just having the wedding we’d previously planned and agreed to; and I had 2 wonderful friends (both of whom, I had worked their weddings for free as a gift) who stepped in to fill the role for my event, which was perfect. 

Post # 4
1386 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think a planner is necessary, but a DOC Is absolutely a necessity! 

Post # 6
900 posts
Busy bee


Post # 8
5379 posts
Bee Keeper

I can handle the wedding planning process because we have a pretty long engagement but since you have the budget, definitely have a day of coordinator at the least because most likely brides will be overwhelemed and stressed out the day before and actual wedding day. You don’t want to deal with all the minor details and drama then have your cellphone ringing constantly because you will not enjoy. Also, it seems unfair to have moms or maid of honors handle the vendors as well (I’m not saying you but I have seen some brides give family and friends DOC responsibilities and it can easily turn into a sticky situation)

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Post # 9
4232 posts
Honey bee

Honestly, I feel like wedding planners and DOC are a waste of money. It’s not that hard to do it yourself- wedding planning is only stressful if you make it stressful.

Post # 11
2119 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I thought a planner would be a waste of money but with how busy we are, our planners (a team of two women) have been lifesavers. We were only going to do a DOC, but clicked so well with them when we interviewed them (plus they gave us photographer recommendations on that initial meeting, before we had signed anything with them) that we decided to spring the extra money for them to help us the rest of the year. I can honestly say it’s been the best money we’ve spent.

Post # 12
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I debated but it was easy to book the vendors I needed. As for day of, the coordinator for the venue will coordinate the ceremony and the dj is coordinating the reception events. I don’t see a need. Think we lucked out!

Post # 13
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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futuremrsm17:  I’m hiring a Day of Coordinator, not a planner. I don’t need a planner because I’m really good at planning and organization. I just need someone the day of to be my eyes and manage things the way I want, while I party.

Post # 14
1707 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think the money we’ve spent on our planners has been totally worth it. They’ve kept us on track and on budget, have saved me so much time, and have been able to get discounts that saved us quite a bit on other vendors. Plus, I’ve never planned a wedding before, and I’ve appreciated having someone to answer my (sometimes dumb) question. 

Also, they are doing our design and florals.  I am not crafty and do not have the time or patience for DIY.  They have been so much help on that stuff. 

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