(Closed) wedding planning?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: is it better to plan a wedding without hiring a wedding planner?




    hire a planner but do some on your own

  • Post # 3
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m planning my entire wedding essentially on my own. Obviously FH and I discuss options, but in the end it’s me doing the research, me talking to people at venues, DJ’s, caterers etc, and me printing the contracts out and signing the cheques. 

    It’s INFINITELY cheaper to plan yourself. I’ve heard too many horror stories of women getting railroaded into an expensive wedding they didn’t want because their planner talked them or their SO into it over time. 

    I’m planning a relatively cheap, simple wedding, which is exactly how I want it. That doesn’t require a planner. 

    Post # 5
    3415 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    I’m planning my entire wedding myself.  No help at all except for the vendors in their specific areas.

    I think if you were to plan a Destination Wedding, or a wedding out of state a wedding planner would come in handy.  Especially if you aren’t familiar with the areas, attractions, vendors etc.  You obviously can’t travel 7 hours by plane to plan a few things every month so a wedding planner just makes sense and could end up saving you hundreds of dollars.

    If your wedding is in your home town, like mine is, I think a wedding planner is just a waste of money.  That’s MO though.

    Post # 6
    1226 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s definitely cheaper to plan yourself! That’s what I did. For me, since it’s a smaller wedding, planning it wasn’t as big of a deal. I found a place where the ceremony could be done onsite (beautiful!) and that also catered (so no tables, linens or dinnerware to rent), etc etc…

    If you are worried about coordination for the day of, get your bridesmaids to oversee some stuff OR juste hire a day-of-coordinator 😉

    Post # 7
    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it’s most definitely cheaper to plan on your own, however depending on your personality a planner may or may not be right for you. For me, I’m way too controlling (yeah, I admit it) to let someone else take the reins on one of the most important days of my life.

    NOW, if I won a wedding from Colin Cowie or David Tutera, I certainly wouldn’t fight it. But I don’t know, anyone else I just don’t trust, LOL!

    I agree with O.My.Heart in that if you’re worried about DOC, have your Maid/Matron of Honor take care of it! I’m so blessed with an awesome maid and matron of honor as well as FI’s aunt who has been AMAZING and will be coordinating and helping set up/tear down.

    It’s all up to you! If you really feel you need a planner to help you and you have the cash to spend, then go for it!

    Post # 8
    9799 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m doing all of mine on my own.  I am very organized and I do a lot of research.  I like being in control so it works for me.  I have taken the care/time/$ to hire highly recommended vendors so I have faith I won’t run into major issues.

    I only think a wedding planner is needed for a very large, complex wedding/reception or a destination wedding.  Or if you have the budget for one and you would like to save yourself the time/stress then you could hire one.

    Post # 9
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    My mom and I are OCD anal planners by nature and would never in a million years pay somebody to plan a wedding for us, especially in today’s world where all reviews are online (back when she planned a wedding without a planner, my mom did say the one disadvantage is that planners knew who were reputable vendors, but now that there are online reviews, you don’t need to pay somebody to find that out!). I’ve also heard stories about planners making decisions for you and I would NEVER want somebody making a decision for me. If the florist is out of my flower and needs to make a change, I WANT her calling me, not a planner. Bug me, please! I’ll take the stress but get things my way in the end, lol.


    Edit: Ps for us, our caterer actually works as day of coordinator, we’ve given her all the vendor info, she’s worked at our venue many many MANY times before and knows all the ins and outs, and she’ll be the one keeping to our timeline and calling the florist to say where are you, you’re late, and whatnot, so we didn’t even have to pay somebody extra for that. If she didn’t provide that service, we still wouldn’t have paid for a DOC, one of my BMs or my mom would have dealt with it all still probably.

    Post # 10
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think it depends on the kind of wedding you plan to have. 

    Generally, smaller/intimate weddings can be done without a planner. However, if you’re having a large wedding with lots of moving pieces and aspects – you’ll likely be better off with a planner to help you with logistics and vendors. 

    I have a planner because I would not be able to pull off my vision by myself mostly due to time constraints and lack of creativity. Also, they keep everything organized and deal with the vendors while keeping me on schedule with planning. 

    You have a long time to go so if you start early enough you should be fine. 

    Post # 11
    10450 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m doing it all myself. I love this kind of thing and I might have been an event planner if not an engineer. It’s lots of research but then I know I’m getting exactly what I want. Plus I work for free 🙂

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