Wedding Planning and Anxiety

posted 2 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

mrsMAC77 :  Every wedding has something not go as planned. It’s par for the course.

I have bad anxiety and can relate. I was a mess and had panic attacks induced by my wedding anxiety. I gave my contracts and vendor contact info to my MOH and to the maitre d. I asked that if anyone not fulfil their service or show up to contact them and take care of as much as they can without involving me. The best thing I did was tell DH that once the rehearsal was starting, all the planning was over and everything was out of my hands. the important thing is that you’re getting married. All the little things are trivial. It POURED rain on me and my dad in the convertible on the way to church and my hair was a mess, but I said screw it I’m going with the flow and it actually made for some really cool pictures of me and my dad! I had my SIL fix up my hair a bit after the ceremony. Just prepare yourself to focus on you and your FI!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

mrsMAC77 :  Also, do you have a bridal party? Because having your closest friends and relatives really helps they keep you smiling and laughing and if something did happen like a freak accident, there are multiple people to help resolve it.

MUA doesn’t make it? Cousin Suzie watches youtube tutorials all the time and has her 10lb makeup bag with her.

Photographer running late? Aunt Mary has a digital camera that she loves using and will take a million photos even if the photog is there

You will figure it all out and it will all work out in the end!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think the best event planners always prepare themselves mentally for the worst case scenarios. Instead of ignoring them, think what would you do in these situations? How would you prepare for them? It helps me personally to envision what could go wrong and working a way to resolve it. Once that’s done, that’s fine.

Back up for makeup could be a local salon that has makeup. I wouldn’t book anything but you can bookmark the name and location in your phone so if you have a “sorry x happened, I can’t make it”, you can be ok fine, I’ll call x and beg. 

General tips:

  1. touch base with all your vendors the week of your wedding and confirm the date and time they are arriving.
  2. have all the contact details for all your vendors on a printed list and in your phone for the day of
  3. keep an eye on the time. If your makeup artist is supposed to be there at 10 am, you’re calling her cell at 10:10 am.

You will be fine!!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

My coordinator has a bridal emergency kit. I forget what all is in it but I know it includes thread and needles, bandaids, deoderant, light snacks, bobby pins, etc. It might be good to prepare one of those just in case.  

Don’t worry about vendors. Vendors like to get paid and that won’t happen if they don’t show up lol. 

I totally get it though because I was really anxious too. For me, the worst part of wedding planning was 2-3 months out because it is close enough to feel pressure but far enough where it feels like a lot is still at a stand still and that made me worry if things would get done.

But now I am 2 weeks and 6 days away (woo hoo!) and I am actually starting to really enjoy my engagement. I think it also helps that my DOC is the one with the heavy lifting to do now. 

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