(Closed) Wedding Planning Blues

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am so sorry rabbit.  If it makes you feel any better, I could have written this post myself.  Try to keep your chin up.  Things will get better, I promise.  I try to focus on the end result to get me through the tough times.  You are in my thoughts!

Post # 4
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

oh miss rabbit, you & I are one in the same! my wedding isnt until aug 2011, & I feel like no one will care until Aug 1… our fam & my Maid/Matron of Honor is on the other side of the country too… my few girlfriends where I live couldn’t care less & have actually complained to my Fiance that they can’t deal with wedding stuff (although I have avoided any wedding convos with them bc I don’t want to seem like “that bride”). I’m unemployed (thank you, economy) & this is my only thing that’s keeping me going – its my project, to keep me busy… My Fiance can only handle so much wedding stuff (he’s a boy, can’t blame him) & my Maid/Matron of Honor has been in a few weddings already in the past few years, so there’s no magic in it I think for her… I feel like I can’t be excited about any wedding stuff, or even talk about it to anyone, for fear of being “that bride”. I wound up picking out & buying my dress by myself (actually my Fiance came with me, because I couldn’t make the decision alone), I’m making my own invitations & no one cares to see it, I send emails to the family members for input on wedding decisions & all they respond with is “sure, its up to you though, its your day” type of responses. I haven’t heard even a thought about any e-parties or showers & no one is excited. I spend most of my day on the Bee, because these laides seem to be the only ones who care enough about the same things I do right now.

Thank you for letting me vent, if anything else. I’m right with you & your emotions & we’ll get through it – I know. It will get more fun as we get closer! (I hope)

Are we just over-analyzing? In the bigger picture, does a wedding not mean as much to anyone else, besides the bride? *sigh*

Post # 5
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I know how you feel rabbit. The other day while Fiance and I were getting frisky, I just suddenly started bawling and it took awhile for me to calm down. Everything just kind of built up until I couldn’t handle it anymore and instead of having some fun, we just cuddled…for like 2 minutes and then his friend called and wanted to come over, which worked out just fine, actually.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Totally been there. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even want to ask anyone for their opinion because they all seem so disinterested. My bridesmaids are all super busy, I personally didn’t WANT a bachelortte party (we’re a small group and the girls really don’t know each other that well, and are so different) but was feelig pressure to do something.

Honestly, I’d take it into your own hands and make the conscious decision to NOT do the traditional stuff like the engagement party and bachelorette party. Take a weekend or a Saturday night and do something special with your Fiance, and just do something to pamper or destress yourself (hello spa day!) instead of a bachelorette party. I think if you do what you want to do, instead of what’s normally expected, you’ll be happier.

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