Wedding planning bride with no friends or any type of female input?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am in the same boat as you. I don’t have any “real” friends to share with. Lucky for me though, I do have a daughter and a sister to share a little with, but allthough they are excited for me, they don’t really want to participate as much as I would like them too. Part of this is because they live in a different state than I do. It does get frustrating not being able to bounce ideas off of someone, except my Fiance, so I just make the decisions mostly on my own. If they are big decisions, I get my FI’s input first though.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

UUgg, I am totally feeling ya.  My Maid/Matron of Honor (and SIL) is living in georgia, my best friend works all the time, and my mother lives out of town.  My FH was working for the last 6 month out of town and now has only to come home to take care of his sons as there mother just passed away.  We have so much to do and I have to do it on my own as there are more important things going on, but it still has to get done in less than 60 days.  If it were not for these boards, I would be pulling my hair out and not knowing what to do.  I have forgotten about alot of things, but because I have read these religiously for months they have kept me on track.  I does get you down sometimes reading about all the things that people are enjoying and doing that I will never get to really enjoy, but the outcome will totally be worth it.  I will be the Mrs.  And we love each other, and all the rest is just a side dish.

Good Luck.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am glad too. lol, about the venue ๐Ÿ™‚

I can hardly wait. I am going to spend the night there in the Grand View Suite, and then we will spend our wedding night there. We are hoping the weather will be nice, so we can eat our first newly wed couple breakfast together on the deck.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Maybe they should create a weddingbee matching service to hook brides like us up with a wedding buddy.  At least someone to talk on the phone to, to call when you are really excited about something and just want to hear alittle giddyness besides your own.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I have lots of female friends, but they are living on another continent.  I do have female friends here in Seoul, but since weddings are so very different here, it’s hard to discuss the same kinds of things.  Plus, the only people I know who are getting married here are my male coworkers, and their Korean mother in laws are basically doing all the planning…so it’s been a different experience.  Having people at home does help, and I send out lots of pictures for people to see and give me feedback on, but it’s not quite the same as discussing things in person.  If there’s something you want to share or if there’s something you want to be excited about, WB is a good place for that.  It’s not face to face, but many girls come on here to share their wedding plans with people who actually care (because just because you have female friends doesn’t mean they care)…..so I think there are probably lots of people on here who will support you if you are lacking that elsewhere in your life.^^

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

i definitely understand the feeling, as the only female i have for wedding planning issues is my mom, and even that’s on and off depending on her own schedule.  you’ll get through it though, and you and your fiance will be stronger because of it! but i don’t know what i’d do without the wedding blog world..having others share your excitement and frustrations, even if they are virtual, is a huge blessing. it definitely keeps me sane!

and next time they do a bee meetup in your area, you should go! maybe you’ll find a wedding-buddy or two! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You’re not alone, but it will be ok ๐Ÿ™‚  It gets lonely sometimes, but you have to try to stay positive.

I had a lot of female friends in high school, but we’re not close anymore.  I made very few friends in college and law school (and the ones I did make were very close).  But we’ve since sort of drifted apart b/c we all live in different states.

My mother, aunt and two female cousins live in a different state, too.  And, to top it off, my mother isn’t really into the whole wedding thing.  She said congrats and asks how its going sometimes, then launches into talking about her problems or my brother’s problems etc.  She hasn’t offered to help me with anything, or given me any suggestions/advice no matter how simple.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I only have one close female friend!  The rest of my female “friends” are only people I see once or twice a year, that sort of thing.  I have many more male friends for some reason, who of course couldn’t care less about wedding planning.  You’re not alone, and it sucks at times for sure, but hey, think of what you’ll be saving on bridesmaid costs. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I almost didn’t respond here, because I’m occasionally embarrassed about my dearth of close female friends, but I realized that perhaps I’m not as alone in this as I once thought.

I, too, do not have any close lady friends upon whom I can call for wedding-related things, be it chatting or participating. I don’t feel any deep or trustworthy relationship with any high school or college friends, and as I am only now about to enter the workforce, I haven’t met anyone new.

I’m fortunate that my mother is very much involved in the inspiration and execution process of all of this, and that a few other (older!) female relatives care, but… well, I don’t have BMs or even a Maid/Matron of Honor at the moment.

So, I’m with ya, so to speak.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve never been the kid of girl with a huge group of friends, and the ones I DO have area all in different states.  My only sister, aside from also being in a different state, is 10 yrs younger and in college, so anything wedding-related is just not in her world right now.  My entire family (and FI’s family) lives 2 states away. 

At first I feared I’d be sad or disappointed doing all the wedding planning by myself (FI has helped of coure!), but I have to say – I’ve enjoyed it and think I prefer it this way!  I know ppl gave me sad patheric looks when I went dress shopping by myself, and it was a little annoying not because able to get an immediate opinion…but I also didn’t have to worry about UNWANTED opinions or anyone being too pushy!

All in all, I’m happy with the way things have gone.  My only disappointment is that I know my MOM wishes she’d been more involved.  I think she always had a particular idea of what her daughter getting married would be like (check out venues together, wedding dress shopping, cake tastings…), and I didn’t do a sinlge thing with her.  I saw her at Christmas, and I’ll see her next month at my shower.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

you have us!!!! I will help you plan!!!!!!

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