Post # 1
I’m having a moment (well more like a week).
I’m a natural self-doubter, something I’m very aware of and work hard to change, or at least fake it til I make it kind of thing.
I don’t know what it is, but lately I’ve just started to feel more insecure than usual and it’s even starting to cross over into non-wedding related stuff.
I worry if the wedding will be “good enough”, will people have a great time.
I worry I won’t look my best. I know every bride is beautiful, but I still worry.
I worry I won’t “enough friends” for bridal showers/ bachelorette.
I have a somewhat complicated relationship with my mom. It’s not that we don’t get along, we’re also just not super close. It makes me kind of sad that she’s not wanting to be super involved or anything (it’s not like she isn’t happy for me, but she’s not like “typical” mom excited).
I’m in a role that I’m overqualified for at work and have been frustrated and feeling like I’m not “where I should be” by now career wise.
Disclaimer: I know a lot of these are trivial worries and that the point of the day is that I get to spend the rest of my life with an amazing man.. I just need to vent.
Anyone else feel like planning brought out their insecurities?
Post # 3
Hello futuremrs1986 .
I can relate to what your saying – i delayed planning my wedding due to thinking i wouldn’t be pretty or skinny enough to be a pretty bride and because i thought what i wouldn’t plan a good wedding and no one would enjoy them self.
I thought that i wouldn’t have enough friends the weeding and that would just be embarrassing . But its turned out that i have to not invite everyone as there isnt enough room at the hall.
In the end i believe those that come to the wedding will love it. If your worried just spice it up a little. or have a photo booth – with props and costumes.
I have felt there is such expectation with weddings – what it should be or shouldn’t be or what i should have or should have . In the end im not having it a venue that said wedding. Im getting married in a nice little chapel and then driving 13 mins to a hall thats situated out of town with gumtrees and grass lands around it. Was i worried about the venue choice 2 months ago ? hell yes !! but im ok about it all now because it suits us and its what we want .
But yes planning brought out my insecurities – at work , at home and every day life – its hard but try not to doubt your self im sure everything will fall into place.
Post # 4
@futuremrs1986: I couldn’t understand you more!
I’m a natural self-doubter too. For me, it’s not the planning but the waiting for him to propose that’s making me a doubt myself a lot. Just the other day I complained to my big brother that I wished my SO would just make up his mind about whether or not I was good enough for him (I was having a seriously, seriously bad day). My brother quickly resolved the issue by telling me that whatever men thought was too good for his little sister would be promptly escorted by him to get his head examined! lol
It’s not helpful that I’m currently still looking for a more “permanent” job that the one I have right now which is badly payed and not even in my field. And I hate the shape of my bottom! lol You’re right, once you start feeling bad about yourself it quickly crosses over into all areas of your life.
What keeps me sane is that most things I’m unhappy about aren’t out of my hands. It’s not like I can’t do anything about the shape of my bottom or about my career. It just takes some patience, hard work and motivation but it will happen!
We both worry about not looking our best. Well, time to watch our diets, join the gym and time for your to find the best MUA in town to transform you from a pretty girl into a breathtaking bride on your wedding day!
I don’t have many friends either but you know what? It’s okay. It’s better to have one really good friend that’s stuck with you through thick and thin than 20 fair weather ones. If you find you don’t have enough friends for a “proper” bachelorette party, invite your best friend over for pizza and ice-cream, have a romantic comedy marathon and I guarantee you’ll have just as much fun, or more, than at a “proper” bachelorette party – and you’ll save a ton of money too!
Your wedding WILL be good enough. You’re marrying a man of your dreams and if your guests are there for the right reasons, they WILL have fun. Those who won’t come for the right reasons are none of your concern. One word of caution though – an empty stomach makes even the nicest of people turn into grumpy party poopers. So make sure there’s enough food and everything will be fine, people will enjoy themselves and you will not see this face on your wedding day:
I hope that helps! Happy planning! 🙂
Post # 5
Thank you ladies for your words of advice and encouragement… good to know I’m not alone. Also, nothing a sarcastic meme can’t fix 🙂
Post # 6
@futuremrs1986: Gotta love Grumpy Cat! 🙂
Post # 7
@futuremrs1986: Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes!!
I always feel when I “dress up” for something formal that I look great but once I get there and see other women, I feel inferior. I’m afraid that will be the case on my own wedding day . The good news is, I’ll be having someone else do my hair and makeup, so that will help I’m sure.
I’m also having “color scheme regret”. The girls have ordered their dresses in a guava orange with brown accents and brown tuxes for the guys, now I’m wishing I had gone with more of a brown/light blue/tan pallete. Ugh!!! I have no idea how to do anything!!
Post # 8
My wedding is good enough for me, so it will be fine.
I figure as long as everyone has enough to eat/drink and has a good time, we’re great.
It’s easier to not care as much when you’re 4 days out, though. 🙂
Post # 9
@BurlapnLace: riiiight? I feel like when I really bring my A-game, I leave the house, almost worried that I have snooki hair and prostitute makeup, and then by the time I get to work my hair is somehow flat and makeup has magically disappeard. For the record I don’t actually try to look like a snooki prostitute.
Ps I think your colour scheme sounds gorgeous!
Post # 10
@CakeyP: True true.. there’s sonething so liberating about the “eff it” mentality.
Good luck this weekend and congrats!
Post # 11
@futuremrs1986: You have NO IDEA how much the “eff it” mentality has taken over for me hahaha (and, btw – it’s awesome. Much less stress! I highly reccomend lol)
Post # 12
@CakeyP: I had the eff it mentality NAILED until the last 2 days. I don’t even know what happened. I am FREAKING OUT for basically no reason. And I still have like 7 weeks to go. 🙁