(Closed) Wedding Planning Depression

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015 - Key Largo Lighthouse

@DesiMercedes: Wow, that is a lot to deal with (even WITHOUT wedding planning)!

It’s hard when things are rough with family – especially when you want them to be apart of your life. I can’t really give you advice on how to repair those relationships, but I can say to keep trying to reach out to them. They might not respond OR might not respond the way you want but you’ll know you tried.

Personally, I use to be the “odd” family member out — the one who would avoid isolate myself from them and never communicate with them. Except, that wasn’t my families fault — it was stuff going on in my life that I had to deal with. I know it was hard on them….

There’s nothing you can do but to keep trying to reach out. Things might not fix themselves as quickly as before your wedding and, unfortunately, may never completely happen….but you and your fiance should look at this marriage as your chance to start a family of your own….

Do you have any close friends you can talk with and confide in? Maybe seeing a therapist for a little would help as you go through this process….It would be a lot to have going on even if you weren’t planning a wedding!

Is it too late to scale back on the wedding or maybe negotiate a lower package price with your locked in vendors? When it comes to the wedding, sit down with your fiance and discuss what is important to you and what isn’t. I had to do this a month agi when I started having panic attacks about all the costs adding up. I realized, I wish I could have a photobooth, opulent dinner, amazing florals everywhere, etc….but was any of that important? Nope! What was important was marrying the love of my life (oh, and a dessert bar because I’m really obsessed with sweets).

Best of luck!!!!

 

Post # 4
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

wow, sweetie, i am SO sorry you’re dealing with this all on your own. You’re mother passing away i’m sure is really REALLY hard. I’m not sure what religion your fiance’s brothers wife follows but not allowing him to celebrate holidayand see his family is TERRIBLE. You seem to have done everything you can to make your family work and i’m sorry that others aren’t working as hard as you are. I know you said it’s too llate to change your wedding but are you POSITIVE? you might lose a deposit or two but it might be less expensive to actually lose the deposits and do a cocktail party reception instead of a large wedding. As long as thw two of you are in love and married at the end of the day then i’d say all went well. I hope everything works out for you. ::sending good and happy vibes::

Post # 6
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Take a deep breath and relax. You said your mom would laugh about this stuff. Chanel your mom, shse’s with you always. My fiance and i are 29 and 34 and we wouldn’t be able to have a wedding outside of a courthouse without my parents help. Don’t feel like a failure. Take a step back and look at all you’ve accomplished and know that love is all you really need to be married in the first place 🙂 

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