Post # 1
I’m less than two months into planning and am already frustrated because a lot of things have not been ideal.
First – the officiant that was our first choice was unavailable for the date we had booked and our back-up date, the second choice is going on a 2 month vacation to Ireland and our wedding falls right in the middle of that, so we are going with our third option, which I’m still a little bummed about because I don’t really know him at all – my Fiance does, so it’s fine, but just a little disappointing
Second – When I went wedding dress shopping, the consultant helping me repeatedly body-shamed me. I’m not a tiny girl, but I’m not huge by any means either, but she kept pulling dresses that I didn’t want at all (ball gowns) because they would better hide my “imperfections” (note, I never said anything EVER about imperfections and told her that I wanted something more fitted). Fortunately the appointment was saved by the store manager who ended up pulling my dream dress, but to this day I’ve been feeling really self-conscious about my body.
Third – We had issues surrounding my FI’s wedding band and a rude employee. After an email to customer service, it has been resolved, but it has been a stressful 2 weeks surrounding that.
Fourth – we just found out that the chain that my Fiance bought my Engagement Ring and wedding band is closing down and has voided our liftetime warranty with no refund. So that was a bunch of money just thrown away.
Fifth – Both of my FI’s sisters want to be involved in the wedding, but don’t want to speak in front of people or do music, so I have no idea how to include them and I had already picked by bridesmaids (which they knew before they said they wanted to be involved).
Basically I’m just so sick and tired of this wedding and really just want to be married.
Anyone else going through the same thing or have gone through the same thing? How are/did you keep sane?
Post # 2
I am the kind of person who always focuses on the negatives so I have been having your problem where all of the small things that go wrong frustrate me and leave me discouraged. I would say try to focus on the good, even though that is easier said than done. You are marrying the love of your life and you are celebrating with a party with your friends and family. You are going to look absolutely beautiful on your wedding day and going to have amazing photos to show your kids or future generations. I am also partially saying this to myself because I need to hear it sometimes too.
Maybe take a month break from the wedding planning and focus on your relationship with your fiance or something completely outside of the wedding. You should enjoy this time and not just stress about every little detail.
For your FI’s sisters, there might be something that comes up later on. Can they do hair or makeup? Are they good with DIY? I am sure you can come up with some tasks for them on the day of the wedding (handing out tips, collecting the gifts, etc).
Post # 3
I feel you. It seems like EVERY step along the way something has gone wrong. First our venue double booked our date after we had already booked other vendors for the date we originally booked.. We had to move the wedding to the next weekend. THEN the DJ & photobooth company we had booked disappeared off the face of the earth, along with our deposit. I had to remove my sister from the bridal party because she wouldn’t cooperate (long story). And the calligrapher wrote the wrong state on 25% of our invitation envelopes which I paid a RIDICULOUS amount on postage to receive….
One thing I have learned from planning this wedding – NO ONE does their job properly!
Post # 4
no 1 – it’ll be fine. You’ll get to know them. They are professional. They’ll do a great job. The fact they know your Fiance a little bit is a bonus
No 2 – she’s a cow. Thankfully the manager knew what she was doing. You have an amazing dress so don’t think about it any more. She had crap sales technique.
no 3 – it’s done.
No 4 – do you have trading standards or similar you can take this up with?
no 5 – tell them “that’s lovely you’d like to be a special part of our day. I agree. What ideas do you have?” Let them come up with something.
it’s crap that goes with wedding planning. I think every bride here hits the ‘sod this lets elope’ phase. You’ve got some way to go. As pp says maybe take a little break from it. And try not to get so worried about other peoples attitude. Learn to shrug and get on with what you want anyway.
Post # 5
That’s just wedding planning bee. There will always be things like this, people and family members will butt in when not wanted, you’ll have rude unresponsive vendors..and so on and so on. Try not to focus so much on the negatives or you will drive yourself crazy.
The consultant was way out of line btw.