Wedding planning going smoothly, what am i doing wrong!?

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 16
1837 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I loved wedding planning. There were a couple family disagreements, but I don’t consider that as having affected the planning. The planning was fun. I had an issue with my cake baker backing out about a month before the wedding, but I just went with plan B. While I was a little stressed at the time, it was taken care of quickly, so no real issues. 

I think it just depends on how much you like to plan events, how clear you are on your wedding style, etc. 

Post # 17
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I don’t think you have anything to worry about at all.  I was promised that wedding planning would be one of the most terrible events of my life but…honestly it’s not hard.  I think the only thing that would make it hard is if you’re a person who a) is prone to decision paralysis or FOMO, b) doesn’t have any knowledge at all of business relationships or contracts, or c) doesn’t have much of a design sense or isn’t interested in the looks/aesthetics of things.  But otherwise, I really have not found it a challenge at all.  The biggest challenge is justifying how expensive it all is to myself, lol.

Post # 18
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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dreamer925 :  Our wedding planning was stress free and drama free. We didn’t have an disagreement or issues during the process. We both worked on DIY projects during the timeframe. We planned our wedding in 8 months. We had all the vendors booked by the time we hit 6 months. I didn’t do any wedding planning or anything for a few months.  We purchased our new home and moved in 2 weeks before the wedding. The process was still stress free. It all came together easily for us. On the wedding day the baker had the wrong flower colors on the cake. I didn’t even care.  We didnt’ have anything go wrong other than the cake colors that I am aware of on our wedding day. 

Post # 19
3515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Wedding planning was pretty much as lovely and stress-free as could be for us. I can only remember having one disagreement/argument with DH in the 18 months we were engaged, which we resolved quickly. And planning actually brought me closer to my mother and all my bridesmaids. I honestly wish I could do it again! 

You might feel a bit of pressure right before, but if you have planned properly it doesn’t need to become stress (unless something out of your control happens, but you can’t worry about that!) 

Post # 20
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’d say for our wedding planning the stress comes from incompetent vendors and a very opinionated/bossy Mother-In-Law.

For example, for our invitations, the company sent us a proof of a purple invitation but when they printed it they turned out pink! Not even a different shade of purple – just a completely different colour and the company basically said tough shit. (We eventually got our money back from them and went with a different printing company but the whole thing was so stressful and stupid. Just print the damn invitations in purple!)

And then the Mother-In-Law is …just a lot.

I just keep positive and try to laugh at all the nonsense. Our wedding day won’t be perfect but it will be ours, so I want to enjoy it.

I’m sure you’ll have some bumps along the way – and if you don’t then that’s amazing!

Post # 21
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: By the lake

Just relax!  You need to learn how to enjoy your free time!  You are very fortunate!!  Go on a quick getaway and just absorb the tranquility of your wedding plan.  I’m happy that all is going well.   I’m not hard to please and I’m going to make this wedding simple and pleasant.  No pressure for me.   I’m one of those go with the flow.  

Post # 22
1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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dreamer925 :  You must have a Mother-In-Law who doesn’t have an anxiety disorder.  I loved planning my wedding and it was great fun.  But I eventually had to stop answering calls from my Mother-In-Law during wedding planning.  For example, she asked me if there were any last minute things I needed the week before my wedding.  I told her our venue required we bring a bucket of sand if we wanted to use our sparklers, and it would be great if she could pick up a bucket and some sand.  The next day I got like 20 frantic calls from her, while she knew I was at a vet appointment with both my dog and my cat, because she couldn’t decide which bucket and which sand I would prefer.  I love her and I know she loves me, but OMG.

Post # 25
577 posts
Busy bee

The only reason wedding planning has been stressful for me is because of my family. They offered to pay for the wedding, but only if we agree to get married in their desired location, so we said no thanks, we’ll pay for the wedding ourselves and get married where we want. That’s when all hell broke loose. My parents have been making threats and telling outrageous lies in an effort to coerce us into having the wedding where they want it. I’m doing my best to ignore them, but it’s still stressful having my parents so angry about the wedding.

Other than that, the only source of stress was the venue suddenly jacking up their prices right before we were about to book them. So we had to walk away from that venue and look at our other options.

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