Post # 1
In wedding planning, a future bride has to keep her sense of humor if she plans on not having a heart attack due to stress:
I’m Filipino (fiancé is Caucasian) and like most Filipino families, I have relatives scattered all over the globe. My dad has been hinting that he wants to invite his relatives & friends from all over. He also asked if he can order a “lechon” (roasted pig on a bamboo skewer complete w/ apple in the pig’s mouth — a Filipino tradition). He volunteered to pay for it. I told him that since fiancé and I are paying for the whole thing ourselves, I’m not inviting over the 150 people we planned for (I either have never met or only met my dad’s friends once in my life.). Also told him we didn’t need a roasted pig because per our banquet hall contract, we already agreed on plated food provided by the banquet hall catering service (choice of chicken, beef, salmon, or vegetarian — I think that’s more than enough choices). You know what his response was? “That’s ok. We can roast the pig at the parking lot of the banquet hall.” He was dead serious when he said this. Aside from offending some guests (a lot are animal lovers and one even has a pet pig), that is a total fire hazard and a complete code violation of the banquet hall and maybe even the city where we’re holding the reception. Oh goodness! What can you do. Gotta love dad but fiancé and I stuck to our decision about the guest list and the roasted pig. That gave me a good chuckle, though.
Post # 3
Wow that is really funny – maybe you could do a pig roast at the rehearsal dinner as a backyard BBQ to please your dad?
Post # 4
OMG! I’m filipina too and now I know what I’m in for! What is even funnier, my SO is jewish- should be interesting!
Post # 5
Gotta love the parental requests! And gotta love sticking to your guns!
Post # 6
FutureMrsMartin, great suggestion! My fiance actually suggested that we have the roasted pig for the rehearsal dinner. He has free reign on that (complete w/ people wearing the Denver Broncos jerseys — his fave team) so whatever he wants.
Sulaii — Yup! It’s going to be a fun wedding planning time! Gotta love family!
Stephin — Thanks for the support. Sometimes I need a lil reminder to be more firm w/ family. Perils of being brought up Catholic AND Asian. All the guilt of disobeying your family’s wishes. =) I’m slowly learning to say “No”.
Post # 7
You’re rgiht! That did make me laugh! = ) Way to stick to your guns.
Post # 8
Awww your daddy sounds cute (and delightfully clueless about wedding planning things!) I’m a vegetarian, but I would be okay with roasted pig during a rehersal party, especially if it is important culturally.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey
Hilarious! I had a tough time convincing my family that shark’s fin soup and roasted piglet would not be ideal courses to serve at our Chinese-Jewish wedding, where half the guests didn’t eat pork and another quarter were ethical vegetarians. I still don’t think they fully got what the issue was. 😉
Post # 10
@Bamm – =) Dad is cute (despite being clueless on wedding planning….and fire hazard codes)
@Hotcocoa – Gotta love family! =)