(Closed) Wedding Planning He** Progresses DOUBLE BOOKED HALL!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh no! I’m so sorry you’re going through all this!! Can we help?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ugh that’s terrible!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

OOf, that is rough. First, a serious talk with Fiance and then FI’s family is in order. You and Fiance need to plan out what type of wedding you can afford together (w/o the contribution of FI’s family), and also if he wants to have a wedding if they won’t be attending. He may want to work out those family issues first, but they need to not be pulling that type of crap. Wow. If you’re thinking of postponing the wedding, think on it a few days and make sure its what you and Fiance really want.

I’d be all over that venue! I would: A) see what they can do to accommodate your wedding on your wedding day if you and Fiance decide you want to continue with the plan as it is; B) if there’s a deposit, I would most definitely demand it back, especially when the fault is on them; C) if you and Fiance want to move the date, discuss with the venue other dates that are available and what they will do to make this huge error right when you’re so close to your wedding (especially strong argument if you’ve had them booked for quite a while and you’ve thus stopped checking other places which are highly likely to be booked). 

Sorry that crap’s going down right now. The most important thing I would recommend is just connecting with Fiance, taking a little time to calm down, and assess what you guys want as a couple and what you need to do to resolve these family issues. The venue should hopefully feel terrible for their error and work to make things up to you. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Im so sorry! Did they say why they thought you were selfish? Of course getting married isnt, and even so, i feel a bride gets to be a bit selfish anyways. lol. I honestly dont know what i would do if i were you. I dont handle stress well, so i feel so horrible! Have you guys looked at any other venues yet?

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow! What a low blow from his parents. A week ago they are inviting the bulk of 300 guests, and now they are not coming themselves!

For your sake I hope they reconsider their idiotic behavior.

If not, chin up and forge ahead with plans for a smaller wedding. Your Fiance will need lots of support from you as I am sure this is very embarassing for him.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Go go gadget Alcoholism.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

huh, so his parents dont support the marriage but most of the 300 guest list are their guests and was the budget slash of $15K to $5K was them backing out on finanical support?

i would be eloping if i was you – or  a small garden wedding with a finger food rreception 

*hugs*  im sorry, you must be feeling heart sick with the stress

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We opted for no one.

good for you!  you and your Fiance are your own family unit now so stand firm and be there for eachother – how crummy of them to yank support this late in the game, im mean i know they are under no obligation but when you tell someone you will do ABC for them and let that person make decisions based on that promise its not right to later on have a hissy fit

i wish people that contribute to weddings would just hand over a cheque at the begining and stay out of it after that – i know thats what i do with my family members

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If its the venue’s fault for double booking they should be doing something to help atleast? Some type of compensation at the very least. Did you sign a contract with them?

Post # 15
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Helper bee

1. TALK TO YOUR RECEPTION VENDOR IMMEDIATELY!  If you signed a contract with them, then you should either be able to get your money back or move your wedding date.  If you do move your wedding date, I would negotiate some major freebies for their mess up.  It’s ONLY fair hehe

2. Talk to your Fiance.  See how he truly feels about his family.  Don’t insert your opinion and just let him talk.  Then make a plan of what to do from there.  If he wants to fix it with his family, then figure out what y’all are going to do.

First and foremost though, have a drink!  Haha just kidding, but I’m sure you feel like it!  Take some time to relax and clear your mind though.  Take a bubble bath, go on a walk, watch a movie, etc.  It’ll make you feel a little bit better.  I’m so sorry this is happening to you!  *hugs!*

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