Post # 1
Well, it has happened. My Fiance and I have gone from a year and a half of stagnant, deadlocked engagement to finally making solid, realistic plans for our wedding. We are going to view a venue and hopefully reserve it for 2016, and we’ve had a friend step forward to officiate. I have had a girlfriend also offer to throw a small bridal shower and bachelorette when the time comes.
It’s amazing how insignificant all of the things from before that had upset me now feel. We’ve even decided on doing the traditional father-daughter, mother-son dances, garter throw, bouquet toss, etc. Part of me is still very worried about how my parents and his parents will behave on the day of, but I’m hoping that having a strong support system of friends will help this all go smoothly
I’m feeling emotionally charged lately, especially since we decided on a venue. My Fiance and I are getting stupidly excited over things like menues and table service and alcohol ideas. I get very shakey and excited when my friends want to look through things on Pinterest with me, but at the same time I have a mix of overwhelming fear and an urge to cry. I want to marry him with every cell in my body, but I’m also nervous, scared, and just emotional.
How did everyone else feel when things started coming together? Did you feel any fear, nerves, nausea… etc? I have moderate social anxiety so I feel this may be why the wedding day itself is so overwhelming to think about.
Post # 2
We’re about 7 months out from our date and I just want to jump up and down ALL THE TIME. I have anxiety to the point where I pass out…it’s draining and embarrassing. But through all of the planning, I haven’t had much anxietey about wedding planning. I moreso look down at my ring and smile to know things are coming together and I’m marrying this encredible man.
You should be excited about menus and the small details! Do you mind me asking what’s fueling some of your anxiety/being scared about planning? Congrats!
Post # 3
Thanks for your response! We have some existing family dramas. Mother-In-Law likes to be the centre of things and can be very manipulative or even cry/throw fits when she doesn’t get her way. My parents are almost estranged, and aren’t responding to any discussions about the wedding. We’ve decided to go through with it anyways, but I fear the “day of.”
Post # 4
Oh, I see! Thanks for the insight. I’m sorry you’re not getting the support from your parents 🙁 But you’ve got this community to help you with things! I think if your Mother-In-Law has thrown fits before, I’m sure some of your guests will have witnessed it and ignore her- and roll their eyes…she will look like a fool. Keep planning and getting giddy about every detail 🙂 If things get awkward on your big day, just smile and save your energy for the people you’ve surrounded yourself with and celebrate with them. As my Fiance would remind me, control what you can control…I hate when he says that, but it’s so true. Good luck!