- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I can’t believe I am even writing this so early on, we have only been engaged about 2 months and I have had enough of wedding talk! I was all excited to look through books and magazines, browse through pics and ideas online…visit places and locate our venue. However, it has been evident very quickly who is going to be pushy and unreasonable in the process.
Also finding a place we absolutely loved was exciting, being told my parents would put in a down payment and work on a budget with us, even better! Then a week later tell me we need to find something else, maybe we can’t afford to do that venue after all. Well…. I probably would have taken that a little better if I hadn’t already been told yes, we can do that venue, gotten all excited and reserved the date with the venue so we could finish up the contract. Yes there are other places, but I am in a small town and there isn’t too much without traveling, and pretty much everyone would have to travel away from where we all live for some decent venues.
That aside…. it gave us time to sit down and talk about what WE really want for our day. I felt better, but still need to talk to my parents and see what their reactions will be if we truly do the Vegas wedding we are pretty focused on now (with a reception back home within a week or two after). I know that in the end we will do what we want, but I don’t want to just take off and truly “elope” Really just want a fun and memorable ceremony (and honeymoon in one) and then a simple, smaller reception since we decided buying a house is much more important than spending on an extravagant wedding we don’t really want!
So the other day someone saw us out one night and asked how wedding plans were coming, and I literally just clammed up and wanted to hide somewhere. I don”t really understand what my deal is and hadn’t even realized it was that bad until that night. Everything between the two of us is perfectly fine, in fact even better since engaged.
I think the Vegas option is great, one big issue for me is that I am halfway through my PhD program in school, working full time and trying to map out travel required for school in the next year, so that limits time for planning A LOT!
Has anyone else become completely uninterested and overwhelmed with wedding planning before you even started? Any stories or words of encouragement?