Post # 1
Hi all brides to be. I’m getting married in May and i’m getting frustrated by how people are acting when your telling them your getting married. Some people have even said to change the date so it suits them and i’m finding it really frustraing. On top of this I just feel like eloping now. I’ve been with my fiance for 10 years and we finally want to get married and i’m feeling like i have 20 different emoptions one day. Panicking about invitations in the middle of the night and table cloths it’s about 5 months away, i’ve even started to tell myself to not think about weddings everyday. Is this normal. When i dont think about the wedding i feel so happy and as soon as I do i start panicking and feeling nausious, anxious and just upset and down. This is meant to be fun and exciting and it just isn’t. Everyone is having there say about our day and everything everyone says is really making me upset when people say they can’t come. I don’t even know if I want to get married anymore.
Post # 2
Planning a wedding and having a typical wedding isn’t for everyone. I’m also getting married in May. Take a step back and evaluate what you want, what you love, what you find most important in this and either go back into planning or elope. Many times eloping is more beautiful and romantic than a traditional wedding. There’s nothing wrong with that.
And stop asking people for opinions when you don’t want them or speak to these people about weddings. People will give opinions no matter what, it’s up to you to take them to heart or let them affect you.
Post # 3
weddingbee100 : If you have been together for 10 years, you are old enough to know what you want and do what you want (as long as you are keeping etiquette in mind). You can make a conscious decision to not let other people’s opinions get to you. Just say ” Thanks for that idea. We will keep it in mind.” then do what you want.
Choose not to let other people push your buttons.
Post # 4
weddingbee100 : I was getting majorly stressed out with planning after a while, looking at all the stuff to rent, venues, trying to please people but we decided as much as we would love the whole shebang, we’ll do a ceremony and do a party sometime later. Wedding is April.
I feel so much relief now and just excitement to get married.
Post # 5
“This is meant to be fun and exciting and it just isn’t.”
Before my first marriage I hated every minute of wedding planning. I had no concerns about getting married. The day itself was great and I was looking forward to it. But the planning part was horrible.
I just got remarried a couple of months ago. Again, looked forward to the day and no concerns about the marriage. The planning wasn’t horrible this time but I still wouldn’t call it fun and exciting.
If it’s just the planning part that is stressing you out, don’t worry, most of us have been there. Prioritize what you can, cut out what you don’t need, but at the end of the day, you’ll have a great day and will be married. If it’s the actual day that’s stressing you out, make changes. Plan the wedding you guys actually want. If it’s the future marriage that is stressing you out, well, out things on hold and figure that out.
Not everyone finds it fun and exciting. Its ok. Figure out what exactly is the issue.
Post # 6
I completely understand! I thought I wanted a wedding and was amazed at how people made comments as to how “inconvienent” the date or time of the wedding was, etc. It completely baffled me!
I’m planning the wedding alone, so all the details are left to me and I’ve had dreams about the wedding which I find embarassing, but I have to believe that it’ll be worth it. The pictures, the memories, etc. I don’t find the planning process to be fun at all. I even considered canceling the wedding and just going on a honeymoon. But like other bees said, the day is about you and your partner. Do what will make you happy because no one else will care about the day as much as the both of you do.
Post # 7
Wedding planning is event planning.
Choose your venue, set your date and time, then go down a checklist of what you want at your wedding. When a task has been handled, check it off.
Make your decisions without telling everyone. When someone offers their opinion, nod and smile.
I repeat, wedding planning is event planning; it’s not meant to be anything other than that. It’s not meant to elicit any particular feeling; it’s meant to get things done. Many people enjoy it, which is great, but that doesn’t mean you have to, too.
Leave all of the emotions you want to feel to the wedding day.
Post # 8
We were supposed to get married in May. I HATED wedding planning. Absolutely hated it. We “eloped” (but still invited immediate family to the courthouse) 3.5 weeks ago.
Best. Decision. Ever.
Post # 9
Yeah, wedding planning looks fun on TV and in movies but in reality it’s a pain I the ass. Hang in there!
Post # 10
This is why we haven’t really planned anything, other than getting engaged. I hate weddings and I hate etiquette, nor do I like being around family. So basically we’re gonna have to have a wedding that doesn’t feel like a wedding, is not “proper”, and involves inviting zero family members…ill probably still get annoyed planning it, lol.
Post # 11
I had fun finding the venue, photographer and catering. other than that, I’m pretty ‘meh’ about it lol. We’ve also been together for 10 years, but FIs dream venue only had a date 18m after the proposal, so we are having a longer engagement than I wanted so we could get this venue. I’d rather have eloped and just get it over with too!!
Don’t forget its FIs wedding too. I had to unload some things and tell him – I need you to pick X Y and Z before the end of the year. I cant do it all, this is your wedding too.