(Closed) Wedding planning makes me feel disheartened…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Honestly, her comment about Safeway was unprofessional and unecessary.

Sorry you had this experience, don’t feed into it further.  People are people they don’t always behave as they should.  I hope the rest of your planning experience is exciting and pleasant!

Also, carnations are usually reasonably priced, they are pretty and come in a variety of colors, just a thought in case you are open to different types of flowers.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Don’t feel disheartened!  Feel smart!  Feel responsible!  Feel proud that you aren’t complaining that people aren’t paying enough for your wedding.  Feel good about the fact that you aren’t going into debt up to your eyeballs for just one day like so many other people.

Good for you!  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mousepeach:  Exactly. And, for the record, you certainly can get very nice flowers at Safeway and other grocery and wholesale spots. We’re planning on picking up flowers ourselves the day before.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@CARA1978:  we aren’t having flowers as such…I ordered my silk & feather bouquet off of Etsy….LOVE IT!!!…I bought a couple small flower girl bouquets/posies from Michaels…super cheap and look lovely..work out what is most important to you…1 day of your life shouldn’t cost as much as some people seem to spend…we aren’t having regular boutineers as such, I ordered a couple custom type pins for the guys & will prob tuck a little flower thing behind it…from Michaels…it is so easy to get carried away with everything and you REALLY DON’T NEED IT ALL…after all is said and done I think you would be happier NOT spending a fortune on certain things:) Our wedding is going to be a beautiful and unique occasion and will not cost us more than $3000 (not including rings or honeymoon)…

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Uh actually you CAN just go to safeway and put together a beautiful bouquet and no one is going to know the difference.  Youtube and the internet were really helpful, and the library can hae some great flower arranging books.  I did all of the bmaids flowers (coffee filter roses) and I made my own (Brooch bouquet) and I ordered $300 worth of real flowers from a grower (http://www.freshroses.com)  aka 2G roses for all of the centerpieces at the reception, and their customer service was great.  And I made all of the bouts too from silk flowers I found at a consignment store.  It truly was not rocket science.  Im not knocking florists, because if I didn;t pick simple designs I would have needed help.  But that being said a grouping of all roses would not be hard to do on your own.  I think it was unprofessional for her to comment on the fact that you are basically paying for her artistic know how, and that only she can do something beautiful.  Furthermore, florists are a dime a dozen and I would look into some others in your area.  Tell them your budget offhand and upfront and then they won’t plan anything elaborate for you.  I asked our florist for two arrangements for the altar and he quoted me at 25 a piece.  I said I wanted to spend 20 a piece and they were beautiful.  Keep your head up and keep looking! (FYI I love finding the best deal and tips to save money so its like a game to me.  Try to make it a game and maybe it will help!)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@CARA1978:  I think her reply is unprofessional and you are not oversensitive to sense it in her email

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@CARA1978:  Yep, we’re going to get some flowers and tie them together ourselves!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We got our flowers from Costco and out them together ourselves. They were AWESOME. She’s just trying to shame you.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly, that was a bit rude of her to say. It doens’t matter if your budget is smaller, you will still be giving her a lot of money and she should not be making you feel inadequate. 

I have a limited budget for flowers and found a florist who was willing to work with me. She is making arrangements that can be moved from the chapel to the reception room and using some organza bows instead of flowers to bring down the cost. She also suggested cheaper flowers for us, which was great. 

If this florist continues to look down on your budget take your business to someone that will appreciate it more and create a good experience for you. 

 

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, I’d look at other florists. I got a grgeous bouquet featuring garden roses and ranunculus at that price point. And I know prices vary based on the area you live in, but her response just came across as not being very willing to work with you, and kind of unprofessional.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Definitely unprofessional on her part. If you can, I’d try to find someone else. Tons of brides have gone to the grocery store or what have you and DIYed their flowers. I will definitely be one of them! No shame in that whatsoever. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@solidarity:  

@nl:  

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  

Yes, yes, yes! You can order bulk flowers, do a little bit of research and make some lovely bouquets! The control freak in me loved working with my aunt on this project for my sister’s wedding last summer, and I am so looking forward to doing the same for my own wedding. It is so great to read when others are doing this.

@CARA1978

Ugh. I know. My parents don’t have a lot of money to put towards this wedding, and the Fiance is a student, and I’m “in transition”… so to speak. So looking at venues (the first step in the process for me) I am getting really discouraged by what it takes to get what you want. Tiny budgets aren’t fun, because we are constantly shown these over the top things. I am just constantly reminding myself that I am artsy and crafty and I will own this day, and that it will all work out. Maybe we can be each other’s personal cheerleaders? 😉

I found her email to be condescending, honestly. I think she saw a smaller budget and just lost her professionalism. I would go talk to some other florists (there are tons, everywhere…) and tell them how much you can spend per bouquet, and I’m sure they will give you options. Also don’t discount doing them yourself if you think you would be up for it.

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