Post # 1
There is something about planning a wedding on a tight budget that can make you feel less than. I have been conversing via email over the past few days with a local florist to get an idea of her prices and selection. The exchange was going great until I sent her my previous email.
Me: Hi XXXXX,
Thank you for getting back to me so quickly. If I wanted to get closer to the $100 – $150 range for a bouquet for the bride and bridesmaid what would be my options in October?
Her response: Honestly, that’s a hard budget to work with…. If you want your flowers professionally done.
With your color palette of purple, lavender and pink… You could do all standard roses in the same color like all pink roses or all lavender roses with some greenery. Or if you like white hydrangeas – that’s another option with some color roses mixed in. Those options would be $100 for the bridal bouquet and $50 for the bridesmaid bouquet. Total of $150.
There is a lot of detail that goes into making wedding flowers. There’s a reason why you can’t just go to Safeway and buy a few bunches of flowers and put them together and look nice.
Think things over. I’m super busy with Mothers Day this weekend. Talk to you soon.
I wrote back telling her that my price range was for per bouquet, not the entire budget – I wasn’t very clear. With that said, though her response is honest and what I would expect from a pro, it still stung. We are paying for this 100% ourselves (not expecting any cash gifts) so having the best of the best professionally done won’t be happening though I want bouquets and boutonnières. I told her we won’t have other flowers so will put what we can into what the bride, groom, Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man will have.
I know it was a simple misunderstanding but it still made me feel deflated that a “mature” couple is in the position where corners have to be cut to have the best wedding we can with what we have. Heck, even my Maid/Matron of Honor is picking out a dress that will cost more than mine!
I just needed to get that out there.
Post # 3
Honestly, her comment about Safeway was unprofessional and unecessary.
Sorry you had this experience, don’t feed into it further. People are people they don’t always behave as they should. I hope the rest of your planning experience is exciting and pleasant!
Also, carnations are usually reasonably priced, they are pretty and come in a variety of colors, just a thought in case you are open to different types of flowers.
Post # 4
Don’t feel disheartened! Feel smart! Feel responsible! Feel proud that you aren’t complaining that people aren’t paying enough for your wedding. Feel good about the fact that you aren’t going into debt up to your eyeballs for just one day like so many other people.
Good for you!
Post # 5
@mousepeach: Exactly. And, for the record, you certainly can get very nice flowers at Safeway and other grocery and wholesale spots. We’re planning on picking up flowers ourselves the day before.
Post # 6
@CARA1978: we aren’t having flowers as such…I ordered my silk & feather bouquet off of Etsy….LOVE IT!!!…I bought a couple small flower girl bouquets/posies from Michaels…super cheap and look lovely..work out what is most important to you…1 day of your life shouldn’t cost as much as some people seem to spend…we aren’t having regular boutineers as such, I ordered a couple custom type pins for the guys & will prob tuck a little flower thing behind it…from Michaels…it is so easy to get carried away with everything and you REALLY DON’T NEED IT ALL…after all is said and done I think you would be happier NOT spending a fortune on certain things:) Our wedding is going to be a beautiful and unique occasion and will not cost us more than $3000 (not including rings or honeymoon)…
Post # 7
@Happy Hopeful Bee: I had a feeling her comment was unprofessional, but then I thought I was just being too sensitive.
@mousepeach: I do feel good about that! Thought this one day is important, its not worth blowing so many other important things for it.
@solidarity: Are you going to DIY your own bouquets?
@lifegirl: Our budget is about $3K too. No DJ, favors, traditional wedding cake, and other things that could easily cost a lot of money. I never though about silk flowers – I guess I think of the cheesy Dollar Tree ones when I think about it. Who is the Etsy vendor? I though about DIY but I think I would be too stressed out since I’m already doing my hair, nails, makeup, etc.
Post # 8
Uh actually you CAN just go to safeway and put together a beautiful bouquet and no one is going to know the difference. Youtube and the internet were really helpful, and the library can hae some great flower arranging books. I did all of the bmaids flowers (coffee filter roses) and I made my own (Brooch bouquet) and I ordered $300 worth of real flowers from a grower (http://www.freshroses.com) aka 2G roses for all of the centerpieces at the reception, and their customer service was great. And I made all of the bouts too from silk flowers I found at a consignment store. It truly was not rocket science. Im not knocking florists, because if I didn;t pick simple designs I would have needed help. But that being said a grouping of all roses would not be hard to do on your own. I think it was unprofessional for her to comment on the fact that you are basically paying for her artistic know how, and that only she can do something beautiful. Furthermore, florists are a dime a dozen and I would look into some others in your area. Tell them your budget offhand and upfront and then they won’t plan anything elaborate for you. I asked our florist for two arrangements for the altar and he quoted me at 25 a piece. I said I wanted to spend 20 a piece and they were beautiful. Keep your head up and keep looking! (FYI I love finding the best deal and tips to save money so its like a game to me. Try to make it a game and maybe it will help!)
Post # 9
@CARA1978: I think her reply is unprofessional and you are not oversensitive to sense it in her email
Post # 10
@CARA1978: Yep, we’re going to get some flowers and tie them together ourselves!
Post # 11
We got our flowers from Costco and out them together ourselves. They were AWESOME. She’s just trying to shame you.
Post # 12
Honestly, that was a bit rude of her to say. It doens’t matter if your budget is smaller, you will still be giving her a lot of money and she should not be making you feel inadequate.
I have a limited budget for flowers and found a florist who was willing to work with me. She is making arrangements that can be moved from the chapel to the reception room and using some organza bows instead of flowers to bring down the cost. She also suggested cheaper flowers for us, which was great.
If this florist continues to look down on your budget take your business to someone that will appreciate it more and create a good experience for you.
Post # 13
Honestly, I’d look at other florists. I got a grgeous bouquet featuring garden roses and ranunculus at that price point. And I know prices vary based on the area you live in, but her response just came across as not being very willing to work with you, and kind of unprofessional.
Post # 14
Definitely unprofessional on her part. If you can, I’d try to find someone else. Tons of brides have gone to the grocery store or what have you and DIYed their flowers. I will definitely be one of them! No shame in that whatsoever.
Post # 15
Yes, yes, yes! You can order bulk flowers, do a little bit of research and make some lovely bouquets! The control freak in me loved working with my aunt on this project for my sister’s wedding last summer, and I am so looking forward to doing the same for my own wedding. It is so great to read when others are doing this.
Ugh. I know. My parents don’t have a lot of money to put towards this wedding, and the Fiance is a student, and I’m “in transition”… so to speak. So looking at venues (the first step in the process for me) I am getting really discouraged by what it takes to get what you want. Tiny budgets aren’t fun, because we are constantly shown these over the top things. I am just constantly reminding myself that I am artsy and crafty and I will own this day, and that it will all work out. Maybe we can be each other’s personal cheerleaders? 😉
I found her email to be condescending, honestly. I think she saw a smaller budget and just lost her professionalism. I would go talk to some other florists (there are tons, everywhere…) and tell them how much you can spend per bouquet, and I’m sure they will give you options. Also don’t discount doing them yourself if you think you would be up for it.
Post # 16
@nl: After reading some of the comments here, I am thinking about doing it myself (but I think I will be too stressed out!). Costco or any local store would work for a simple arrangement. I just watched a Youtube video and it doesn’t look that difficult to make a beautiful setting.
@goldfish2308: Thanks! I should go with my gut with her. She has 100% 5 star reviews but…
@Cory_loves_this_girl: I will check out Costco to see if our local one would be a good fit.
@gingernutjo: There are so many options here in Portland; I will look elsewhere if I won’t DIY.
@Wonderstruck: I totally agree with you.