Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Hello Bees!
This goes out to all recently married Bees and those planning a summer 2014 wedding. I’m looking for some insight on how you guys are holidng up or how it went for those who already got married. What stressed you out and how did you deal with it? Did you have those moments where you wished you eloped or just wanted to call off the whole wedding because everything and everyone was stressing you out? This is what I’ve had to deal with so far:
- Bridesmaid that brought her own dress without letting me know…in white
- An address list of guests from parents and future in-laws with no addresses
- Parents that gave me INCORRECT addresses, so the invites got sent back to me. Yep, I got “RETURN TO SENDER” invites sent back. Which means I wasted postage…and my invites cost me $2 to send, $5 each to print
- Bridesmaid that decided to wear the same shoes I was going to wear on my wedding day
- No one is sending back the response cards
- Not losing any weight at all…despite working out 6-7 days a week and reducing caloric intake…haha…weight gain must be from the stress and lack of sleep
- Parents giving me an attitude about how my invite weren’t as “good” as my cousin’s
- Parents upset that I didn’t book flight, hotel, etc. for them
- Parents upset that I can’t entertain them for a whole week after I got married…(uh…hello, I just started a new job. How many vacation days do they think I have? I go straight back to work after my wedding day!)
- Parents decided to invite 8 family members to stay in my small apartment immediately after I get married. Of course I would love to house people right after my wedding. They can all bunk out and share one bathroom! *sigh*
- I am now 2x over my budget…and I’m freaking out over how I’m going to pay for everything since the cost is a lot greater than what’s currently in my bank account
I’m so stressed out, I’m about to have an aneurysm! Anyone else out there that can relate? Please share your stories. We can all commiserate in misery.
Post # 2
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3277 posts
Sugar bee
Just take a deep breath, it’ll be okay! I’m getting married June 7th, the only problem I had was that our guest list was 400 people and the venue only holds 300! Thankfully yesterday we worked on the guest list with our families and got it down to 300 with a 50 person B list. My dads suppose to be getting stamps so I can mail out the invites soon (although mom thinks it’s too early) so we can send out the B list invites if we get enough no’s. It’s been difficult planning from far away but hasn’t been terribly bad.
I wouldn’t worry about wearing the same shoes as your bridesmaid, no one will notice. And the weight is probably just you losing fat and gaining muscle which weighs more. Don’t stress yourself out, it’s just one day!
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
First, that is a hell of a lot of bullshit and no wonder you are stressed!
But please don’t stress about your lack of weight loss! Don’t just look at the scale. If you have been eating healthier and working out 6-7 days a week, I promise it shows on your body, if not in pounds. You likely have better posture, a more active, youthful aura, and your muscles and body are likely much tighter overall. And that definitely shows!
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
It’s easy for wedding planning to get super stressful. Everybody has RSVPs o track down. My dad pitched a fit that I was considering not having a processional. My grandmother was conviced I would burn down the negiborhood if I had candles on the tables. And it hailed at the rehearsal for my outdoor ceremony/reception – in August.
My advice is to prioritize and focus. Think about what’s really important to you and focus on that. The rest is just details. Be nice but firm. Take moments to enjoy yourself along the way – you never get this time back.
In the end it will work out. I had resigned myself to no sleep the night before the wedding because I had a bunch of DIY left to finish. So I just went to my Welcome Dinner and had a fabulous time wiith all our friends and family and when I went back up to the suite I found a dozen of our friends and family with origami, need/thread, hot glue guns and napkins. We knocked it all out in a couple hours over laughs and champagne and it was awesome!
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